Spending a large(ish) amount of money on yourself - do you consult your partner beforehand?

[emkana]

That's it really! Would be interested to know what other couples do!

i work and have my own account ( 2 of them) but i am not an entity on my own. i have a family. my husband and my children are my family and contribute to it accordingly, financially or otherwise.

if dh went off and spent £133 on a new gold plated pool cue. u would seriously ram it up his jacksy.

if however he discussed it with me and told me how he would very much like it. i am sure we could come to some arrangment whereby he was happy and the bills could be paid.

We each have an account for our own spending into which we put £150 a month - and if it was something that would come out of this, like clothes or 'gadgets' then we wouldn't ask or inform. I regularly spend more than that on clothes and wouldn't dream of asking about it! If it was stuff for the house or other joint spending I would expect to be consulted but probably wouldn't object.

We don't ask permission but do tell each other IYSWIM. He earns, I don't not that I think it should be relevant.

we would discuss and work out if it fits into the budget - would notjust go off and spend it.

Emkana, your dh sounds like mine - if there is some gadget thing he wants he just can't wait. Because I know there would be constant "discussions" about this, I prefer for him to keep a certain amount of his salary in his own account each month and he buys what he wants from this. He usually tells me in advance if it's something big he has saved up for, otherwise just orders it.

Depends what it is.I always lie about the cost of beauty type things although I know he wouldn't mind he would just think it ws ridiculous so I just buy them and don't say

yes, I would consult him
whether I not I worked
we have always had a joint account

With jampots here. If it were my money, I certainly wouldn't ask his permission first.

But last week a friend paid for a day's flower arranging course for us both. I toyed with the idea of asking him if, therefore, he wouldn't mind paying for our pottery painting (friend and her child included) yesterday. But in the end, given how expensive it is, I decided to pay myself.

It's interesting, isn't it? Would never expect H to pay for my clothes, etc., but would want him to pay for the household bills, simply 'cos he's working, and I'm not.

Though, by now, I ought to be. Definately food for thought.