Am I in the wrong

[fortythreeandnearlyfit]

Ok - so partner and I have a simmering argument. I feel taken for granted.
So, I bring it up - try to say how I feel. I say I feel unloved, unsupported and unattractive. I tell him that I love him, love his company etc.
All he says back is "you are being stupid" "you have got this nonsence into your head" Nothing else. No reasurrance, no "i love you as you are". Nothing. He then says that arguing "is wearing him out". He will say "im not arguing any more" and go silent.
Its like a stone wall and its really getting me down. He tells me I am arguing with myself and he has done nothing wrong. He also has a habit of ignoring me for a while if i try to address things with him.
Is this me being needy?

Digerd - that made me cry. Thank you. I've lived with abuse all my life. My dad wasn't physically violent with us (just things) but he subjected us to the most awful verbal assaults and emotional abuse. And it was totally unpredictable and he was utterly unreliable. My mum acknowledges nothing. If im looking thin and my hair is ok ill get some recognition but not for anything else. My brother is head of international cancer research projects and gets no positive mother vibes either. He and I don't have a close relationship but he does with his wife and her family. I lefts home as soon as I could to escape the moods and even years later I feel relief not having to live with the mood variations of my childhood home.
Luckily I have a friend who is like family to me. Her door is always open and she believes in me, supports me and treats me like one of her children. I love the stability. She and her family are my world.
Writing it down makes it clearer. Stupid question alert: violence is violence isn't it? The stuff about 'he came at me in the car park, he shouldn't have said tnat about my kids' doesn't justify physical assault? Also he could have stopped at the first slap instead of punching him in the head.
I can do better than someone who brawls in car parks!

He sounds very unpleasant - good you are binning, bet it makes you feel better!

"He would also say that I kept the nhs cafe franchise going"

Cheeky twat! Is all well and good if this were a light hearted joke, but in the wider context, if he keeps saying that, then its clear that male pride is being dented by having a capable, professional woman on his hands. I expect you'll find that quite a few blokes will find your status as a doctor, and earning capacity, to be a bit of a threat.... so I guess this guy has done you a favour, as now you know exactly what symptoms to look for when diagnosing the deadly disease known as "Pin-dick".

Good luck!