I want a boob job.

[WiltingRoses]

I'm not some air head who wants to get her giant tits out, ala Jordan.

I'm a mum whos had 4 children and whos boobs have gone completely south.

Its not something I could just get done, its something I would have to save, long and hard for. And I'd also feel very selfish as there are other things we could save for that would benefit our family rather than just me.

My husband would rather I didn't. But I wouldn't be doing it for him, or anyone else, it would be for me.

I'm over weight by a stone or two, I know I can sort that, but I cannot sort my boobs out,

The more weight I loose the thinner and saggier they become.

It makes me want to cry when I catch a glimpse of myself.

I have no confidence when being intimate with DH if he wants to take my bra off, which of course he does!

I spend the whole time try to hold, or cover or pull my top back over them, I dread certain positions as my breasts hang down and I can't stop thinking about them during sex and can't get into it.

The whole thing from start to finish is 'how can I hide my boobs or make them look more pert / stop them from hanging low.

I never wear low cut clothing, I'd never start wearing low cut clothing.

I just want to feel normal again and good about myself. And have sex with the man I love and who loves me unconditionally without these thoughts.

:(

Interesting thread. It is something I have considered but I wouldn't necessarily want to have to have replacement implants every so often.

But on the other hand I'm in my mid twenties and thanks to breastfeeding for almost 2 years have the boobs of someone much older. :( I'm not done having children (hopefully) but when I am I am considering surgery.

Does anyone know if a breast lift involves follow up procedures in the same way that a breast lift does, or how long the results are likely to last if not? I can possibly deal with saggy, south-facing boobs in 20 years but right now I avoid looking at them in the mirror as they depress me, I don't want to spend the rest of my twenties and beyond feeling this way!

Although I would recommend getting a proper bra fitting - I did only last week and it has made the world of difference to my clothed figure. Echoing someone above, the fitter (at Debenhams) told me droopy boobs do better in balcony styles (she put it in a nicer way!) and she is absolutely right, I won't be going back to plunge - not enough support!

Hmmm sorrel,

according to that method, having been wearing a 38c or 38d for years I am infact a

34EE

I absolutely second the bra thing, if only as a stop gap until you've saved up for the op.

I am a d cup drooper and last year I bought a push up plunge bra (I think) at Debenhams, which does WONDERS. Friends actually thought I'd had a boob job.

I didn't get fitted, just took armfuls of bras into the changing rooms and tried them all on until I found The One. I also left the kids at home with my mum so I could take as long as I liked. A good tip is to put your top back on over the bra to get the finished effect and avoid having to look at your stomach all the time

Being a D cup already I would never normally have tried a push up, but actually I think they really solve the droop problem - with the padding under the boob, you fill the cup much better IYSWIM

Another one here for the bra thing. It's been my mission in the past to sort friends boobs out whether they wanted it or not. It can make a massive difference to your overall shape and you will start to walk and hold yourself differently, all a confidence boost.

How about getting the bra size sorted, loosing your weight that you want to and then reassessing the surgery? If you still feel it is necessary for you then, go ahead.

Orphelia the idea that surgery will not fix anything can be true for some people but most simply have the job done, are happy with it and life goes on.

Yes, its vital that you have the "right" overall shape. If you have the "wrong" overall shape, I also advise you to meet straight away with a (hopefully) reputable surgeon and part with thousands. Being able to have good sex means having the "right" kind of body let us not forget, and if you have the wrong kind of body, well too bad for you, forget it basically. You will never have the confidence to be naked for a start as you are basically quite unnattractive from waist up, and you should make strenuous efforts to hide your body in the bedroom, if you are do not do so already. If you were lucky enought to be born with a Marilyn Monroe (or Kate Moss, attending to cultural or personal tastes here) figure (and lets face it few are) then really why not give up completely.

(P.S. None of this is directed at OP, I actually kind of get her pain, just a general satirical angle.)

I meant unlucky enough to not be Marilyn Monroe/Kate Moss - sorry complicated sentencing ...

Get to your ideal weight FIRST.

Actually Janelikejam I find your reply totally patronising and offensive.

Do you REALLY think I just woke up one day and thought 'oh, im not the right shape I'll throw thousands at a surgeon>?'

This is the result of years, YEARS of pregnancy and breastfeeding,

I grew 4 children, my body stretched and deflated time and time again and my confidence shrunk with each child I had.

I'm not telling ANYONE else to feel this way

I would fucking LOVE to not feel this way. it is painful and upsetting and I already feel about 2 inches tall for not being 'strong enough' to just get on with it and accept my new body.

I'd deveoted 10 years to my children and gave them everything including my body .... im only just heading towards 30, why the hell should i spend the next 30 years of my life feeling down about myself when I can do something about it.

I'm not asking you to do anything with your body,

take your general satirical angle somewhere else, ok?

Please don't feel bad about feeling bad about your body WiltingRoses.

There's no reason why you should carry on feeling like you do if you can remedy the situation for the sake of a few grand. Other people's opinions really don't matter, because they're not the ones who have to live with it. You don't have to justify your choice to us, or to anyone.

I regard my implants as an expensive piece of jewlery that I never take off. HTH

Wilting. Yep, I bet the 36 and 38 at way too big in the back

@WiltingRoses @chipsandmushypeas

Are you still active on Mumsnet ??
Thanks x

I only have 2 kids but breastfeeding has left me with empty tits lol. I don't like the idea of implants but there is this thing that they take fat from other places and they put it in your breasts.... I want to have that done

Hi, I used to be a very droopy, massive 34F, I'm a size 10. After years of struggling to find bras and clothes to fit, feeling self conscious during sex and my massive saggy boobs making me look a lot bigger than a size 10, I decided to have a breast reduction and uplift.
I am now a 34c, my boobs fit my body, no more boulder holder bras and grooves in my shoulders from bra straps. It's brilliant, not for one minute have I regretted it.
If you are a 38ee implants alone aren't going to work for you. A mastopexy will be performed with implants.
A lot of clinics offer a low interest loan. Why not go and have a few consultations to see who you feel comfortable with and what the drs recommend.

@SadSausage44 @Pinkybutterfly - thanks for the comments but this is a super old thread from 2012.

I was wondering how the lady got on as I'm seriously considering implants and wanted a little advice without starting a new thread x

As a man I can't really suggest much other than it's your body and if it makes you feel better then go for it. What I would suggest is for a couple of hours a day you can easily earn yourself £20/30 submitting reviews & surveys. My daughters been doing it during lockdown and cashed out £500 yesterday for 3 weeks work an hour or 2 a day! She's got a new puppy and wanted a ground floor flat with a garden so it's gone towards her deposit. She said it's the laziest way she's ever made some cash!
Good luck with it.

Op I've had a lift and then an augmentation, feel free to pm me if you've got any questions x

ZOMBIE THREAD FROM 2012
But..... 8 years on - I wonder if the OP has had the surgery yet?

I actually meant to tag @lmnoh

Well aware of the date on the thread but thanks for pointing it out

Maybe I should have started a new thread - but the OP and I sounded the same so was interested in how things went.

I'm a little older, 48, 2 primary aged children.
I'm into my fitness again and although the tummy will never be the same thanks to 2 c-sections, the breasts are looking very sorry for themselves and I know no amount of eating cupcakes or exercise is going to make them any better.

My friends and family are supportive of my decision so I just need to do the research and then wait for the clinics to re-open.

I found this thread a good read though so hopefully others in the same situation will also 🌞

For those of you considering implants I suggest you look thoroughly into Breast Implant Illness and the fact that implants carry a risk of a certain type of cancer called ALCL Anaplastic Large Cell Lymphoma. The cancer risk aside implants are basically endocrine system disrupters and can cause or accelerate your auto immune response to go into overdrive. Many women with implants have been subsequently diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and other such illnesses. There is also the consideration of complications of things such as ruptures and gel bleeds etc.

Now I say all this as someone who has implants, I had mine before the cancer risk had been discovered. Having lost my mum when she was just 37 to cancer I don’t think I would have gone ahead with the implants had I known of this risk.

Speaking from a purely cosmetic standpoint, I loved my boobs after having had them done and after breastfeeding it was lovely to have my boobs back. In all honesty I still love them now, but I certainly love them less and I worry all the time and wonder if my vanity is worth the increased cancer risk. I am now considering having them removed all together which will most likely leave me with less than I started with, not to mention undergoing another surgery.

I don’t mean to put anyone off, but I do wish to make people aware of the full risks...the guidelines are still changing in regards to how openly breast implant manufacturers and the cosmetic clinics/hospitals actually inform and discuss these risks with prospective clients.

I hope you all find this information useful, and don’t take me at my word, look into it for yourselves. There are support groups on Facebook that discuss this, you can look up the information in relation to the FDA and there are several Class Action lawsuits in progress in America and I believe Australia too, UK medical law firms are also starting to take notice and gather clients.

Thanks @Lillygolightly

I've resurrected this thread as I'm feeling like the OP.
I'm so torn in what to do and the risks to my health will certainly be looked into.
Atm though I'm looking at supposingly "natural" looking breast augmentations and thinking - they look fake !
But I'm not sure if that's because I know they are fake ??!?

Thank you for your comments xx

@lmnoh

Implants don’t all look fake, mine certainly don’t. Real vs Fake look really is dependant on the type of implant (saline/silicone/gummy), shape (round/tear drop), size and projection (high profile, low profile) you go for and whether you have implant inserted over the muscle, sub muscular or completely under the muscle. There are many options, there are also some none implant options like fat transfer.

i think there’s a misconception that plastic surgery is shallow and for airheads wanting to look sexy.

I had a breast uplift after losing a lot of weight (pre kids). I was left with saggy skin and it really affected my confidence...no amount of therapy is going to make you feel less self-conscious about saggy skin showing when you bend over and are wearing something even remotely low cut!

It changed how I feel about myself it was amazing...for the first time in ages I could feel comfortable in clothes and without them!

The surgery left scars but they were incredibly neat and faded to the colour of thin white stretch marks after about a year...you wouldn’t even know i had it done now.

I’ve put weight on again after having kids but they still look great and even though I’m fatter my body confidence is still higher...I know when I lose the weight the same thing might happen so I’m going to wait until I’m sure that I’m done having kids and if I lose the weight and feel I need it done again I would definitely consider it.

Just go with a reputable group like the nuffield...as other people said a baps accredited surgeon at a reputable clinic is worth the money.

Thanks for the replies .....

I was in the process of arranging a consultation with the Spire at the end of last year but couldn't arrange a date that suited so left it ....

I know they probably aren't arranging appointments atm but I'll call them.

Im not a large frame, 8/10, and would only have implants that suited my body size. I do feel that as I'm getting older they are reducing in size and it is slowly chipping away at my self confidence.

It's good to hear from real women that they can look natural as the ones I've seen look like bowling balls ! I have also been trying to find a blog or similar from women in the uk who share their experiences but haven't found any yet x

It's all about getting a size that is appropriate to your body size. I know 5 people at least who have had them - two look fab and you would never know . The other three went for ones that were far too large for them and they just look ridiculous, obvious and dare say it - tarty . One has put weight on so she looks very matronly now . Choose with care .