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mumsnet widower poison

134 replies

jm8997 · 11/10/2012 00:19

I have no one else to talk to about my feelings. My wife has family and friends, but she also appears to spend a lot of time on mumsnet. I feel suicidal, lonely and always blamed for the bad things that happen in life. Some of the threads on this website are so intensely vitriolic and polarised that I believe my wife is being destroyed from the beautiful kind loving person I married. Her addiction to mumsnet is really scaring me, yet I fear I cannot raise it with her as she would get angry with me. Help?

OP posts:
Offred · 11/10/2012 13:07

Or just protect your tweets from the public eh? So still reading then...

Northernlurkerisbehindyouboo · 11/10/2012 13:10

Plainly there's more to this than meets the eye!

Op - I spend plenty of time on mumsnet but also have a functioning relationship. There are lots of posters like that. If you feel mumsnet is the problem, sorry but you're wrong.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 11/10/2012 13:11

Twitter, eh? Hmm

BigBroomstickBIWI · 11/10/2012 13:13

Twitter a/c is now locked ...

ScreamingNaanAndGoryOn · 11/10/2012 13:15

Samaritans - 08457 90 90 90.

They are much better for giving help than anonymous posters.

GobTheGoblin · 11/10/2012 13:15

Ha ha he's just made his tweets private. Knob.

izzyizin · 11/10/2012 13:19

Deleted? Moi? For stating the bleeding obvious? Jeez, to the best of my knowledge I wasn't harsh or rude or insulting as my earlier response, if it's still extant,, will testify.

BigBroomstickBIWI · 11/10/2012 13:20

Hmm Hmm I wonder who reported that, izzy?

izzyizin · 11/10/2012 13:35

It seems to me we can safely assume that the OP has elected to live to report another day, Broom Hmm

bitbewildered · 11/10/2012 13:37

I went to bed last night very grateful that my DH is not the OP who seemed determined to ignore everyone's offered help, and only to attack, mainly, Littleblue. If he's your DH run far away!

izzyizin · 11/10/2012 13:38

A site where twits can go private? It figures...

GobTheGoblin · 11/10/2012 13:38

He must think we're all 'suckers'. Wink

BigBroomstickBIWI · 11/10/2012 13:51

Out of interest, did his tweets give any indication that he is genuine, or here as part of an invasion?

There are a couple of very odd posters at the moment that are making me wonder if F4J walk amongst us again...

Littleblue · 11/10/2012 14:00

I was completely impervious , despite being told I was behaving badly , I felt justified in taking the piss out of what was obviously a Troll....I had a couple of private messages asking if I was ok after being the main target of his abuse which was lovely... this man got alot of genuine support from all the kindness and compassion readily available from the mumsnet community..., and his stupidity in exposing his actual identity by using the same name as his twitter proves my point regarding his manipulative and trolling behaviour... I hate to sound smug but rests her case :)

MouMouCow · 11/10/2012 14:00

I feel sorry for the poor chap.
As for obsessed MNters, a few spring to mind ( I don't undertsand how they can have a life outside and manage to look after child and husband with the amount of time spent on this site) and the comments made about other DHs are sometimes quite harsh and prejudiced.

No insults please, disagreeing with you lot is no justification for getting abused....

swallowedAfly · 11/10/2012 14:03

is 'you lot' everyone on mn except you?

just trying to work out who you're addressing.

bitbewildered · 11/10/2012 14:03

My DH doesn't need to be looked after. Hmm

ScreamingNaanAndGoryOn · 11/10/2012 14:06

Everyone is entitled to an opinion.

I personally think that using a NN that his wife will recognise on a site he knows she uses to post about how awful she is and to threaten suicide, could be considered as manipulative and possibly even "not in the spirit of mumsnet".

LineRunner · 11/10/2012 14:06

'manage to look after ... husband' Grin

I think the purpose of the thread was to goad someone on here to suggest something horrible to a supposedly suicidal man, so that this could be used to attack and denigrate MN as a whole.

edam · 11/10/2012 14:07

I think you've got it the wrong way round moumou - read the post immediately before yours.

AnEerieAirOfHorror · 11/10/2012 14:08

Maybe womeb can do two things at one i think its called mulititasking lol

GobTheGoblin · 11/10/2012 14:10

Mou you do realise the op is a troll?

Lueji · 11/10/2012 14:13

The OP sounded like my ex when I left. Hmm

He didn't kill himself.

BrainSurgeon · 11/10/2012 14:22

Fascinating!

LottieJenkins · 11/10/2012 14:33

I may be over-reacting but as a widower i am offend by the thread title!!!

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