OK, so this is a stealth boast about how gorgeous my DP is, but really...

[IfImHonest]

Righty-ho. I've got my entire flame-proof outfit on, including the pants.

I've been seeing my DP for a year almost. He is utterly gorgeous. In fact, I can't believe that I pulled him still, but it appears I have. He is also a very nice man and we're loved up (told you this was a stealth boast post, actually where is the stealth?).

BUT I am being driven crazy by the attention he receives. When we first started going out I posted here asking how to deal with the fact that he's so lovely looking, as I'd never been out with someone good looking before and I got lots of good advice about just being myself etc. And I do that.

But I am being driven utterly mad. He's one of those tall dark handsome types. He is constantly being given phone numbers, his secretary declared love (before my time), whenever we're out he's accosted, that sort of thing. He's in a job where he meets lots of new people all the time. I don't mind if I'm not there of course and he rarely if ever tells me, but I know that it happens. But last night I realised I'd had my limit with it. We were going to a bar for a drink. We parked the car and he got out. His mobile rang so I stayed in the car while he answered it, putting on some lipgloss (OK that was unnecessary detail). By the time I'd come out of the car, two women were by him, one with her arm around him, and the other saying 'god, you're gorgeous, and you smell amazing' - and he was sort of flapping at her as he was on the phone. When they saw me they backed off.
then we went on to the bar and every time I went to the loo there would be some woman by him saying 'hey, can I sit here?' or 'are you on your own'?

Now I should say he never makes me feel jealous. he never encourages it, he seems to be firm and polite and tells them to go away politely, and as far as I know he's never been out with someone who 'picked him up' in this way. But frankly I am really tired of it. I got home last night and realised that I was miserable and that my night had sort of been ruined by it. I feel like a bloody WAG.

what on earth to do?

Trust me I remember one woman emailing dh at work saying he had seen him, liked him ect ect. When he turned her down because he had a gf, she said it didn't matter to her!! Some woman are relentless

I remember the thread about your DH lisad

Tell me about it Lisad123. My H is quite good looking, but nothing really special..... what he is is very charismatic, very successful and very rich. One colleague told him 'it didn't matter that his wife was pregnant, he could be with her if he wanted'. Lovely girl, really classy bitch

I am going to bring my daughter up with some moral standards. If he's married/got a girlfriend you keep your hands OFF and your knickers ON.

Panic. That is vile.

My DH (perfectly attractive, was very so at uni, but if I'm honest neither of us have aged as perfectly as we might have done...) was at a wedding last year and I wasn't able to go, as I was ill and so was DS. He and another friend were chatting quite late on in the evening when this woman who had been trying to talk to DH all day appeared, and started trying to flirt again. DH never notices female attention, never did, but it was so blatant by this point a blind elephant couldn't miss it, so DH smiled, politely held up his left hand, ring very clear, and said, "I'm married".

To which she smiled and said, "I don't mind."

Just. What?

Apparently there was this pause while my husband looked at our friend, and then back at this girl, and then said, "Did you really just say that?" She apparently twigged that he was by now annoyed and unimpressed to the point of mild disgust, so she wandered off. But when they told me I was just - what sort of woman does that to another woman? I can understand the falling-in-love affair, but to approach a married guy you don't know from a bar of soap, and not even be deterred when he himself references his marriage? I can't fathom that one.

And I am not looking forward to the christening that will shortly result from that wedding, either, because a few glasses of champagne and I will be glaring daggers if the girl is there. Maybe I need to be strategically unwell.

Fine as long as you're going to bring your sons up the same.....

Finding this thread uncomfortable for 2 reasons.....

Detecting an undercurrent of women expecting women to behave better than men and a feeling that if women would just damned stop telling men they find them attractive, men won't be tempted to be unfaithful.

There's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man if she thinks he's single. Just as there's nothing wrong with a man approaching someone he thinks is unattached. Sure, it's wrong to proposition someone who's clearly attached, but it's no more surprising or worthy of criticism if a woman does that than if a man does the same.

It shouldn't matter about other women's behaviour. A man should be expected to say 'no' just as much as women. Think the reason some of these women target said attached men is because they are sexist and can't believe a man would say 'no' - and that some men say 'yes' because they know their womenfolk will blame them less because it was 'offered on a plate' (yuk)

Which leads me to the 2nd discomfort.....except for the famous, I really don't think it's likely that anyone would have complete strangers repeatedly coming on to him unless he was communicating 'availability' signs. Interesting that so many posters seem to think these women 'strike' when they think the man's partner is out of sight and grab the opportunity. I think there's an even bigger chance that when you're out of sight, some of these men are giving signals to those women and when they see he's attached, they go away thinking 'oh his poor girlfriend, wonder if she knows she's with such a player......

And just to clarify, I'm not talking about when this happens infrequently, as in the case of a few posters. Sure it's happened to lots of us too - it has me!

I'm talking about the OP and other posters who say this keeps happening. Just makes me a bit sceptical about what the man's doing to attract this attention all the time.

Ladies, you are all so fabulous! There is no bloody way that I'm posting a pic though ... !
I have to say that I was surprised at some women's behaviour. There's nothing wrong with approaching a man you think is single, of course not. And he doesn't have a wedding ring. But there are so many times when I am with him and a girl is staring at him and then I go off for a minute and I come back and she's trying to talk to him, despite it being clear that I am 'with' him. Not all women do this, of course, but some do and I find it frustrating, hence this post!
I actually spoke to him last night about this briefly - not in a "god, I'm so fed up of the female adoration" but more in a "it must be tough on you to constantly be accosted" and bless him, he said that he really didn't like it and was really happy to have found someone who loved him for him. Of course, what he doesn't realise that is that i do love him because of his hot body! (only joking )

My ex(previous to current ex) had this problem. He wasn't even all that good looking he was a bit of a skank but he had a job where women literally threw themselves at him elvis impersonator and was very good at it - rated number 1 in the country at one point so when he was dressed up he looked amazing and had some seriously sexy moves and a good voice. Women loved him. He was also a DJ in clubs and used to come home with women's numbers shoved in his work bags and his website was covered in messages from women, wanting dates, sex, giving him compliments. Away from work you wouldn't look at him twice, except maybe to glance back and wonder what the smell was even with the trampiness differences in work/everyday he never had any shortage of dates. He was mr popular in every way even though his boss kept a can of lynx at his day job to spray him with when he walked in it was amazing the effect he had on women. I still miss him and keep in touch with him 3 years later. You could never stay annoyed at him for long. Madness.

Dinosaurs that sounds like quite an experience! It's all good that you're still friends though. I am religious about being on good terms with my exes, except for the horrid nasty sex addict who (and I only found this out after the event) cheated on me more than 50 times in the 6 months we were together. I still hate him, and I'm proud of that...

My DP is in a band, he is the good looking one in that band, and he gets attention a fair bit. However, I'm not an ugger myself, and I get more attention than him insert smug face which drives him up the wall sometimes, but only HE turns my head.

If a woman/man knows the person is attached, it is disgusting behaviour, however, if they are unaware they cannot be blamed for giving it a go?!

Feel good about yourself, feel flattered, I would, in fact my ego would swell to awful proportions ha

Bloody hell he was a busy boy. Hope he gets something nasty and his willy falls off.

I think I'm friends with most of my exes, except the really twatty ones who should come with a warning. Ex I mentioned above is still great friends with not only my family, but my exHusband and his family too. Even though I got with him only a few months after splitting up with exH. And my dc adore him. Just a shame about his inability to wipe his arse bad habits. My nan still begs me to get back with him.

Detecting an undercurrent of women expecting women to behave better than men and a feeling that if women would just damned stop telling men they find them attractive, men won't be tempted to be unfaithful.

I know what you mean - the way the media went ballistic at say Sienna Miller for having an affair with a married guy, but hardly bothered to attack him at all. And apparently this is because it's women who read these stories, and they prefer to blame the other woman. You see that when people have affairs, too - the wives focus the hate on the person who made them no vows. But at the same time, I'm someone married to a guy who has a lot of integrity. I trust him. I don't think he'd stray opportunistically. And yet he has been approached by a woman who spelled out that his commitment meant nothing to her, even after he'd made it plain that it did to him. I don't think it is unreasonable to find that morally abhorrent.

The person who promises you lifelong fidelity is the primary sinner if he strays. But someone who doesn't give a stuff if he is married or not is not an innocent party either.

Ifimhonest I hope his cock turns green and falls off. And given his activities, it well may. Isn't that a happy thought.

Dinosaurs, great minds!

I can't believe these women have no shame!

Now post a pic so we can all perve

Haha - only joking - sort of?

It's great for you that he feels that way about you. Now it is up to you to not let this drive you crazy! Every time he gets a glance from another woman or gets chatted up - just see it as another woman that will be disappointed because he has chosen you!!!

Good luck with Mr Hotbody