OK, so this is a stealth boast about how gorgeous my DP is, but really...

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Righty-ho. I've got my entire flame-proof outfit on, including the pants.

I've been seeing my DP for a year almost. He is utterly gorgeous. In fact, I can't believe that I pulled him still, but it appears I have. He is also a very nice man and we're loved up (told you this was a stealth boast post, actually where is the stealth?).

BUT I am being driven crazy by the attention he receives. When we first started going out I posted here asking how to deal with the fact that he's so lovely looking, as I'd never been out with someone good looking before and I got lots of good advice about just being myself etc. And I do that.

But I am being driven utterly mad. He's one of those tall dark handsome types. He is constantly being given phone numbers, his secretary declared love (before my time), whenever we're out he's accosted, that sort of thing. He's in a job where he meets lots of new people all the time. I don't mind if I'm not there of course and he rarely if ever tells me, but I know that it happens. But last night I realised I'd had my limit with it. We were going to a bar for a drink. We parked the car and he got out. His mobile rang so I stayed in the car while he answered it, putting on some lipgloss (OK that was unnecessary detail). By the time I'd come out of the car, two women were by him, one with her arm around him, and the other saying 'god, you're gorgeous, and you smell amazing' - and he was sort of flapping at her as he was on the phone. When they saw me they backed off.
then we went on to the bar and every time I went to the loo there would be some woman by him saying 'hey, can I sit here?' or 'are you on your own'?

Now I should say he never makes me feel jealous. he never encourages it, he seems to be firm and polite and tells them to go away politely, and as far as I know he's never been out with someone who 'picked him up' in this way. But frankly I am really tired of it. I got home last night and realised that I was miserable and that my night had sort of been ruined by it. I feel like a bloody WAG.

what on earth to do?

My man is seriously über hot too and I'm not being biased, he's always getting women eyeing him up and my friends openly say "I would"! But anytime any other woman tries to make her move he just gives me a massive kiss . As for the times I'm not with him? Who cares? I love him, I trust him and I know he's coming home to me.

Tough one. Not much you can do really except keep being yourself. He obviously likes YOU as he is with YOU. The worst thing you could do now is become jealous or clingy. Even if you don't feel that confident you can act it. He will love it and other women will be intimidated by it.
I once went out with a drop dead gorgeous guy at uni who I seen around for about a year and fancied but never spoken to. I was amazed when a mutual friend introduced us because he had asked them to! I did feel quite self-conscious at first as I was convinced people would wonder why on earth he was with me!

I have this too OP

Not only is DH gorgeous, he plays guitar in a band and I have SEEN how nuts women go over him, and most of the time when they have gigs I can't go cos of babysitting (or lack of)

no advice though, sorry!

There isn't anything you can do. He isn't doing anything wrong and he doesn't encourage these women.

Stand beside him looking smug.

Is he as good looking as Don Draper in Mad Men ?

Just don't be clingy or insecure or you will make him tire of you. just accept that a gorgeous man loves you.

I have seen this with men in certain professions, law enforcement, emergency services. My husband is a paramedic, and my brothers are police officers. It seems there are certain groupies for these professions. I just have to trust my husband, I would go mad if I thought to much about the subject. I can't control his behaviour when he is not with me, I can manage my potential anxiety and jealousy.

Cynner if my experience of paramedics are anything to go by, I don't think it is the "groupies" you need to worry about

OP - it sounds really difficult and I can see how it would ruin your evenings but I am amazed that this happens every single time you leave him...where are these women that would just approach a man like that??

Y'all ain't gonna find me draped over ya man like a python, honey, 'cos ma men drape themselves over me

Ah suggest you go grab yourself a male entourage of your own and see how he likes them apples.

It ain't that I don' trust ya, but just to to prove ya'll's not stealth boasting, how's about ya post a li'l pix of that thair cross Adonis you've gone got yaself?

Ceebeegeebies, I have heard the back of the not in use ambulance stories. I get a bit pale contemplating two EMTS getting naughty on a stretcher someone has bled/vomited/mucosed on...

PS ya do know he's lucky to have ya in his crowded life, don'cha?

Cynner my friend once accidentally walked in on a couple of (married but not to each other) staff at it in the back of an ambulance

ceebeegeebies...I cannot fathom how they manage such activities? Surely, they must be very bendy?

Have you heard my Violet Elizabeth Bott, stuff? Would you like me to scweam and sweam until I make mythef thick after readng this thread?

So what happens if her vaginismus renders him penis captivus while they're getting jiggy jiggy in the back of an empty ambulance?

Quick trip to Orthopaedics on a trolley made for 2 and get the Black & Deckers out in time for the next 999?

When you're in love with a beautiful human, ya gotta watch your friends...

When your in love with a beautiful human, it never ends, no it never ennndss..

If these women are just throwing themselves at him like that, I don't think you've anything to worry about. You can just sit there with a smug, pitying look on your face while he fights them off with a stick. He's probably sick to death of trashy women giving him their numbers so you've nothing to worry about.

Why not just avoid bars and these kinds of places that are aimed at drinking and shagging and go out for quiet dinners and to couple-oriented kinds of places like parks and museums or galleries. Just enjoy couple time together rather than being in bars and the kinds of places singles looking to meet someone would go.

I used to have this with dh, one girl threatened to punch me out even had a MN thread on my rather lovely looking dh
It has got better as we got older, but mainly because we stopped going to clubs! Still get comments from other mums
Had woman at work email him too!!
Dh is mindless to it all and I trust him so doesn't really bother me, I'm quite smug really

Sigh. Tweed is fashionable!

Used to have similar thing with DH when we first met. He now calls be the wife loudly and a lot.

Is off to look at profiles and check out everyone's DHs

Wow, he sounds like a male Samantha Brick.

I've seen some good looking blokes in my time but I've always managed to resist the urge to drape mysef over them. I'm shocked that some women would do this!