The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Turning Over Autumn Leaves In Search For Our Own Personal Sobriety

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Hello, I'm mouse and my best friend used to be vodka. We were inseparable at the time, such fun! Wild nights out, wild nights in..... danger, excitement, strangers, not knowing where I was when I woke up, oh it was all so fantastic.....

Not the case for the last couple of years or so, since I found this Bus.

Now, we are practically strangers. Don't get me wrong, I still abuse alcohol and use it to self-medicate which completely defeats all of the work I've put in, trying to see my life through sober eyes but that's just how I do things......

Anyway, that's enough about me so why not come say hello to the others on the Bus, we're all at different stages of drinking, not drinking or complete abstinence (of the drinking kind!)

No-one on the Bus wears judgy pants, nylon bloomers, leopard skin thongs? Maybe...... I wouldn't like to ask to be honest! But we are all here for the very same reason, we can't (or don't want to) control our drinking like 'normal' people do.

If you'd like to see how this all started, why not have a look HERE and read about one of the most inspirational ladies you'll ever 'know'.

You can also follow the threads, one by one, by clicking on the links on each thread towards the end, leading to the next etc......

See you soon x

Hello brave bus babes, you helped me get through the dabger zone post 7.30 open wine time, thank you, I almost cracked but popped on here instead, I did write a long post earlier in response to you all but it's not here, hope it didn"t end up on some other random thread I've been on! X

obscure while you are still feeling strong, can I suggest you get rid of that wine now? It will be harder to do tomorrow...

Put it in the car. Or DHs car. Take it down to the shed and put it right at the back, under something filthy.

alias do you keep something filthy in the shed then? An old man? Spare parts for your vibrator?

Haha ma

My mn has gone a bit funny. Funny peculiar that is. It keeps randomly coming up as a sort of pdf type file instead of the usual all set out nice and easy on the eye. Anyone else suffering like this or just me?

ma if you're bored go and read the 'embarrasing typos' thread. Made me laugh

Well my first alcohol free night in a long long time apart from being ill sometimes ! Went fine tonight. I went into work and caught up on some paperwork 6-10 doing same tomorrow and working wed night anyway and got big posh dinner out Thus. I will have a couple of glasses then and enjoy which is what I want to be able to do x I'm going to make some really good changes and looking forward to longer evenings doing nice things and being able to concentrate on a book again or watch tv and stay awake ! X

Morning all! I was so looking forward to being able to boing on to the bus this morning but been up since 4.30 with DC so not boinging anywhere. Did not drink last night though and 4.30 wake up would definately have been more hideous if I had! Well done timeto. Where is the embarrassing typos thread? Hope everyone has a good day. Oh and chicken keepers are they noisy (this is DHs biggest concern) and what do you do when you go on holiday?

Well done you, timetochange.

green - oh, no, not boing-y! But still, you must feel great- if sleepy!

I am definiately feeling 'boing'.

Wouldn't say I was boingy this morning but haven't had usual breakfast of two paracetamol so must have done some good last night.

morning

greeneyed mine aren't noisy at all. they do make a cute little purring/snoring sound when they snooze standing up though we're off for a weekend away at the beginning of half term: dogs to kennels and my dad usually comes and feeds the cat so i'm hoping i can talk him into a bit of chicken care too - if i get him on his own he'll agree no worries and not see it as a big deal, if my mother is there she'll turn it into a drama. so i best corner him solo.

timeto - off to a great start then! well done.

little bit of distance from my last drink now - 10 days. today i will not be drinking no matter what happens. whatever goes right or wrong will not be made better by drinking. decision made!

x posted - well done ma what about today?

today i will not be drinking no matter what happens. whatever goes right or wrong will not be made better by drinking. decision made!

Me too Saf. I love that, so simple, so positive

it does need doing every day doesn't it? if i don't do it then the room for waver and wondering is there.

Ha ha SAF my mother is exactly the same! I will not be drinking today

Just lost a massive post, grr

Morning babes

I managed last night because I was distracted by all the work I needed to do and hadn't even started, one of life's procrastinators, me. I would love to continue to stay up and work in the evenings. When I drink i crash out at 9.30 ish. When I got up this am I was able to pull on a massive pair of smug knickers and ponce about as though I am a goddess of housework and study. that was day 2! Think I might reserve the smugness for the rare times I make it past 6 sober days.

That aibu was very interesting. I only skim read a couple of pages, did anyone post on it? I wouldn't have the courage, plus I have a problem with alcohol and most people don't. There was a lot of anger at the suggestion that some of us need to cut down.

Well done ma and obscure and greeneyed and anyone who made it through last night.time, the horror of being awake with dc at 4.30 plus hangover. Horrible, horrible feeling. Well done for not giving in and I hope you get some sleep tonight.

Big wave- have good day all.

Saf and Faire- I'm not at the stage of being able to say 'I'm not drinking' and to stick with it all day. I'm still gritting my teeth through the cravings stage.

Massive credit to you both for having worked your way through it all and to be in such a strong position, i would very like to manage that too.

Trying again, with greater brevity...

Chickens not noisy, Dad looks after them when we go away, but there's boarding at a local farm kind of like kennels, so that's our back-up option. Neighbour's chickens are really loud though, don't know why.

ma well done on day 1, what's the plan for tonight?

I'm on day 5, won't be drinking. Wavered earlier because I have family coming for dinner, but have decided to provide elderflower fizz instead. They're not big drinkers, and I'm sure if they want wine they'll bring it. I want to feel tip top for weds as it's my first days work in a couple of months, need to make a good first impression with the agency.

No doubt they'll assume I'm preggers when I refuse wine, lol...

That's the relatives not the agency btw...

ellie, good plan. They probably won't even notice and elderflower fizz is lovely. I starting to connect chickens to being a babe though!

Had another look at the aibu (should be working) and it gets really nasty at times. It doesn't matter how potentially flawed that particular research may or may not be, lots of people do drink too much, there is a growing awareness of how alcohol effects health.I bet that there are a few lurkers thinking about that thread and perhaps thinking about joining the bus. PLEASE DO!

gugg i'm not in a strong position. i make the decision i won't drink in the morning - that doesn't mean i won't have cravings or temptations in the day at some stage but that i've decided i'm not going to give into them. no strength involved it's just making a resolution really. don't forget i crashed spectacularly very recently and it was partly because i'd not been taking it a day at a time and making that resolution every day.

can't face looking at that thread. can imagine there is a lot of defensiveness involved though.

I don't think the op positioned it very well, I do agree she sounded rather smug and as if her post was just to provoke defensiveness and prove to herself there were all these middle class alkies denying a problem, of which she isn't one so can feel all superior, I can see why people did not take it seriously it was all rather silly really. I'm not saying there was not some truth in the article though...

amazing how defensive people get about alcohol - no doubt I used to be the same, definitely I looked down on anyone who wasn't drinking and thought to myself they were 'boring' (even though the person I know who never drinks is actually a hoot, very clever and funny) I also thought they were sad and missing out on something

ma nothing like that in my shed I really meant spiders and such, cause some people don't like them, you'd have to be desperate to go hunting in the dark with the neighbours curtains-twitching

I don't need spare batteries for my vibrator, it runs off the mains