10 things I love about my husband...

[LaTristesse]

Just seeing if I can get to 10 really... We're struggling at the mo and rather than bitch and moan about all the shitty things he does I thought I'd try and see the positives. So here goes...

1. He's good at imaginative play with the children
   
2. He's generous
   
3. He's good in bed
   
4. He smells nice
   
5. He gets very passionate about stuff
   

So those took me about 10 minutes and I really can't think of 5 more. That's not good, is it?

[BellaOfTheBalls]

1. He is kind and gentle
   
2. He is loyal to friends and family members and would do anything for them
   
3. He is the most incredible father to our DS's & is lovely to other peoples' children
   
4. He tells me I'm beautiful every day (even when I'm not)
   
5. He is generous to a fault
   
6. He is the only man to ever make me orgasm
   
7. He makes me laugh
   
8. He works incredibly hard
   
9. He brings me a cup of tea in bed on my lie in mornings
   

10. He buys me flowers every month on our wedding anniversary
11. He loves me unconditionally
12. He's not afraid to make a fool of himself
13. He shares my passions (food, our children, films)
14. He makes me a better person because he shows me how to love myself for who I am, not hate myself for what I am not.

[iknowwho]

1 He loves me and the children with all his heart and his actions proof it time and time again.

2He would rather go without things so that me and children don't miss out on anything.

3He makes me feel like I am the most important person in the world. Even when he comes home after a really bad day he will come and give me a kiss and say 'alright love, how's your day'

4 I work shifts and when I'm not there he just carries on running the house.
The tea gets made and washed, he oversees the homework, makes sure shoes are polished and uniforms washed and ironed.

5 He is not tight with money. He can be a spender but he is a big earner so it is not a problem. I only have to say I would like something and I can have it if I want.
6 He cares about the extended family and tries to keep everyone in contact.

7He makes me laugh. A lot.

8 I have read the threads on the relationship board about DP's being sulky, controlling, bad tempered and so on. DH is not like that at all. He leaves his phone and lap top lying around. I have open access to his wallet if I want etc. Nothing is an issue.
9 Sex is great
10 He is really intelligent. I'm just amazed at the stuff he knows.

The list goes on and on.
I have been with hime 22 years and we have had our up and downs over the years but I would be without my massive, gentle, lovable DH!!

[FireOverBabylon]

We're living with stress at the moment so i'm using this as a chance to remind myself of all the reasons I love DH:

He makes me a cup of tea every morning
He gets up with DS in the night as much as I do
He cooks, loads and well
He does great hugs
He loves spending time with me
He wants to $%£$ me senseless every time he sees me in a pencil skirt
He is commited to remaining married to me - we both have divorced parents and don't want that for our son
He wouldn't cheat - he got the come-on from a woman at a conference and said no, then came home a bit bemused and told me about it!
Loves using the washing machine
Is so gentle and caring and rough and tumble with our little boy. DS adores him.

OP, I know that you're struggling but thanks for starting this thread; it was good for me to count my blessings.

[BlackDahlia11]

1. Smart and intelligent
   
2. Can't wait to be a Daddy one day
   
3. Loves kids
   
4. Takes care and dotes on our pets even though he's allergic
   
5. Supported me through depression
   
6. Geek at heart
   
7. Fine with girls nights out whenever I have them
   
8. Awesome to party with
   
9. Kind but also has the balls to stand up for himself and me
   

10. Never had an argument with eachother
11. Sex is amazing
12. Biker
13. Amazing tattoos
14. Can cheer me up in an instant
15. Full of cuddles
16. Non-judgemental (knows my darkest secrets)
17. 100% honest
18. Does his share of the housework
19. Works hard in his career
20. We have hilarious private jokes

I could go on...

[wavesandsmiles]

I am so in love with DH - we are TTC and moving house at the moment which is pretty stressful, but I still wake up every morning smiling because I am waking up with him....I married him because I love everything, absolutely everything, so here are just a few things
He is kind to me
He makes me feel like the most beautiful person in the world
He is proud of me
He loves my children
He is a wonderful father
He is gorgeous
He is amazing in bed
He knows how to do pretty much everything round the house
He makes the BEST cups of tea
He has beautiful eyes
He is thoughtful
He leaves me love letters or little notes lying about
He buys me presents for no reason other than he wants to
He wants to share everything with me
He "checks me out" all the time
We have quiet times when we can just sit reading books in each other's company
He is really funny
He sweeps me up into his arms and gives the best cuddles
He inspires me
He is very clever
I even love that he uses apostrophes incorrectly. He does it so consistently, it is adorable
He gives me butterflies
He is my shoulder to cry on - literally sob on from time to time when I am missing my dad who died last year
He makes me feel so much better about myself
He does great facepaints
He wouldn't cheat - I giggle about when he was out and someone started to chat him up and he launched into a - I'm married so not interested, but you'd LOVE me wife, and started showing off photos of me
When I am stressed he helps me break a problem into bite size pieces
He always knows when I am worried
He is my best friend
He is very handsome
And I could keep writing hundreds more things, but I have work to do.......

I wouldn't have married him if it wasn't for that list, I've been there before and resolved never to remarry. But I love him so so deeply, being anything other than his wife just wouldn't have been right. I am so sorry OP that you have struggled so much to find the positives....and have just reminded myself how very blessed I and my children are.

[BellaOfTheBalls]

This thread is really putting my faith back in marriages and relationships in general. Sometimes I get quite upset for the women/men on the relationships forum living with partners who think their behaviour is perfectly OK.

That is meant in a good way and not in a smug "look at how perfect our relationships are" way.

[BellaOfTheBalls]

P.S. OP, I am fairly certain this is not what you wanted to hear, I'm sorry. Where do the issues truly lie in your opinion? Do you think practical help (Relate, time away, make genuine quality time for each other that isn't watching TV or around DCs) might be of use? Perhaps list of all the things that annoy you? Is it the stress of what is going on that is making it worse? I have had points where just looking at my DH makes my blood boil but actually it is usually more to do with my issues and frustrations with everyday life rather than him.

I heard a brilliant quote from Paloma Faith of all people the other day. She said that in her opinion that a long-term relationship was less about finding someone who didn't irritate you at all, but finding someone who irritated you less than the rest of the world. This made me

[flatbellyfella]

Wish I could join in, but sadly don't have an OH.

[DragonMamma]

1. hardworking and never ever moans (whereas I am almost crying when I have to do my part time job although it's as well as being a SAHM).
   
2. is a very enthusiastic dad and adores them
   
3. massages my back every single night and does it with the same enthusiasm as when we first got together
   
4. tells me how much he loves me every day
   
5. has never made me feel rubbish about how my body has changed after 2 dc's and gets mad if I say my stomach/bum is fat
   
6. always gives me the lie ins
   
7. great in bed and always tries his luck but understands if I'm tired or not in the mood
   
8. thinks I'm the funniest person he knows
   
9. never rises to my jibes when I'm in a foul mood and spoiling for a row but not enough to wind me up further
   
10. he looks at me with this look on his face which tells me he really does think the sun shines out of my arse (of course it does)

[KatieScarlett2833]

He adores me
He cooks dinner every night
He will do anything for the DC and I
He earns the big bucks (shallow but true)
He is vair good looking
He is funny
He is kind
He is intelligent
He is faithfull
He smiles when I purchase the latest MN musthave and says "good for you"

[givemeaname]

I think its important not to compare your husband with all the other husbands/partners listed here. It really depends on what you are happy with and not happy with, some women would be happy with just a peck on the cheek every day afterwork others would prefer a lenghtly discussion on whats happened in the day. Of course, 5 good things is beter than nothing, but it makes me wonder how many negative things you can come up, that may be more telling. Wishing you all the best though.

[CheerfulYank]

GiveMeAName is right, I think. I adore my husband (see above list! :) ) but sometimes I think "why doesn't he do X like my friend's DH..." No one is perfect; you just have to decide if it's worth the work.

[ickywickyyicky]

wavesandsmiles - you have just given me hope. I might not have it now, but some day just maybe.

[wavesandsmiles]

icky I never ever dreamed I would meet anyone half as perfect for me as my DH. I feel like the luckiest person in the world, and the best part is that he feels the same too. Givemeaname is very very wise. I know that I would drive many people to distraction, and doubtless he would too. What matters is that DH and I are a perfect partnership. I guess the way to describe it is that not only does he tick "all my boxes", he ticks boxes I didn't even know were there.

So, I waited a long long time, and it was worth the wait. I really hope that everyone gets the chance to be half as happy as I am now. I look back to when I was with exH, and the negatives far, far outweighed the positives. It was frightening to go through the divorce and become a single mum, but, it ended up with a happy ending. Or as DH keeps reminding me, a happy beginning :-)

[totallymessedupp]

Can i join in? I have only been with my bf for 3 months but we've been friends for nearly 10 years and now that I've finally gotten XP out of my life we can be together (after years of mutually liking each other).

He makes me laugh, even when life is hard
He is gorgeous
He makes me feel gorgeous and tells me I'm beautiful every day
He is kind
He is strong but gentle
He is fantastic in bed and is the only man to ever give me multiple orgasms
He is great with my kids
He tells me how great I am every day
He still loves me and finds me attractive even though I can't always be bothered to shave my legs/wear make up etc
He is my best friend, I can tell him anything and know that he won't judge me or use it against me ever.
When he puts his arms around me I feel like I'm "home", like I am just where I am supposed to be

I had 9 years of an imperfect relationship where I was just used and made to feel worthless. He spent those 9 years telling me i wasn't worthless/stupid and that I was in fact a great person. Its only now that I can believe him.
I cannot imagine my life without him in it - he makes me so happy, just by being him.

[Nymia]

Been with my husband for 10 years, married for four.

1. He's a mathematician and extremely brainy. And also loves to read big weighty books. It makes me swoon.
   
2. He loves to try new things and hobbies, and he aims to be good at them. At the moment it's squash, weightlifting, and Starcraft II.
   
3. He is very affectionate and we hug, hold hands and kiss all the time, more of it coming from him than me! I always feel loved.
   
4. He has the most wonderful playful eyes and loves to laugh.
   
5. He is very successful and earns loads working in the City, BUT
   
6. He has always put his home life before work, and though he could probably earn more or move higher up the ladder he is happy at his current job which has better hours and allows him to spend longer evenings with me and pottering about at home.
   
7. He's gorgeous, and at the moment his body is all fit and sporty. Mostly. Doesn't stop him going mad on a tub of Ben and Jerrys from time to time and moaning about the consequences...
   
8. He likes to tidy up and put things in their correct places. I don't, but I'm happy enough to cook. So as long as I catch him and stop him putting the ingredients back in the fridge before I've had a chance to use them, we get on great. He also does a great fry-up breakfast when we have guests, and can knock out fajitas for supper super-fast!
   
9. He is very close to his parents, respects them a lot and has a great relationship with them. He's also great with my family.
   

10. He's been the most wonderful support to me while I've been pregnant, doing all the messy chores without complaint (looking at you, cats!) and even claims to still find my 38-week pregnant body sexy. And does everything he can to make sex comfortable for me, even though it's unfortunately really not fun right now.

I think I'm going to go put the iPad down and go drag him away from his computer now....

[UnlikelyAmazonian]

Sorry, but pass the sick bag.

[Nymia]

Don't worry, after the fifteen minutes of gooiness MNers experience while composing these posts, it will be straight back to "That selfish bastard, he can fuck off to the far side of fuck if he thinks I'm picking his sweaty football socks off the fucking floor because the lazy bastard has just fired them in the direction of the laundry basket and missed. He's got shite aim, too, the bastard."

[Nymia]

I'm currently looking at a dirty sock that's been flung across the room and has stuck to the actual wall above the laundry basket. And wondering if that cancels out me asking him to clear up cat sick. Ugh to both, but I might have to re-read my post and get up and detach it gently now.

[BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts]

He's funny
He is good with the DC
He's vair good looking
He's generous
He smells lovely and dresses well
He likes spending time with us and thinks up days out
He takes the DC to the park a lot
He does school runs and takes DC to activities happily
He cooks nicely
He is passionate about his work
He''s outgoing and I am shy so he helps me along

[BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts]

On the flip side

He's lazy with housework
He moans about money and why we don't have more
He moans about the weather TOO MUCH
He forgets things all the time
He can't leave the house without returning umpteen times

that's better!

[UnlikelyAmazonian]

weird how nearly 100% of you with these wonderful witty caring vair handsome husbands, don't post any pictures of them on your profiles.

and pass the sick bag again.

[dysfunctionalme]

What I love about my husband (technically we are still married) is that:

he lives in a different house
pays child support
is devoted to his children
is reliable
that he is the reason I have two beautiful children
many happy memories
tries to be reasonable

There, how's that for an ex?

[weegiemum]

1. He's gorgeously handsome in a dark smouldering type way
   
2. He a brilliant dad and our children love him
   
3. He's passionate about life
   
4. He's very very good in bed
   
5. he's a fantastic doctor and his patients love him
   
6. He is devoted to our family and has stuck with me through the hard times
   
7. He thinks I'm amazing, when I dint think it myself
   
8. He's very clever and did an extra degree in theology just for fun!
   
9. He's calm, he can cope with anything
   

10. He chose me. Nobody else. I know we are together forever. (22 years and still going strong!).

[FancyBread]

dysfunctionalme
Nice post. I have married friends who don't have anything positive to say about their partners.