Advice on the kiss-off email please

[Beograde]

Hello, I'd like a tiny bit of advice on the kiss-off email to an ex. I'm not sure whether to go down the magnanimity or honest route.

The short story is I met someone, fell head over heels in love (and he was saying the same about me). However, after a while, the ex appeared on the scene, and he has moved back in with the ex.

He has just emailed me to tell me this. I'm obviously upset, and I want to tell him he's treated me without integrity, was very flaky to have changed his mind so quickly, but the other alternative is "all the best, I hope it works out".

What would you advise?

+1 for radio silence.

Delete from your email address book, your phone, everywhere, and forget forget forget.

It can be done. Requires an effort of will but it can be done.

I once got pissed about by someone from work. Gorgeous, thoughtful, sensitive, intelligent. Thought I was falling for him, it made my day whenever I passed him in the hallway. I couldn't stop thinking about him and then he asked me out for a drink. Was in heaven, we went, I thought it went well but he didn't because he decided he didn't want to know, ignored an email and generally gave me the brush off.

I was gutted and nearly hit the bottle...v upset, but did the above.

Some months later somebody I'd never met passed me in the hallway and said hello, greeted me like an old friend and wanted to talk.

Reader, I genuinely had no fucking idea who this was so I stared at him blankly. Then I remembered it was the brusher off. I thought "tosser", said "hi" and continued on my way.

He clearly read "who?", "tosser" and "boring" in my face. You can't fake all that off the cuff. He looked suitably crushed. Good. Prick. Karma's a bitch.

I reckon your twattish twunt will be back.

"Thank you for being honest at last. I had suspected you were lying about something but couldn't quite put my finger on it . Do not make contact with me again".

Then ignore.

+1 for absolutely no contact from the outset.

You can write the angriest, most vile email in the world - and let it be the email you never send. It's very cathartic and helps to get everything out without worrying or caring what they think - this guy's opinion is no longer relevant.

I did no contact with my ex (serial cheater) and although it has been difficult, it has been the best decision because it has helped me to heal faster than if he had still been in my life. There's no need to have the last word when you yourself know you're in the right. That didn't stop him continuing to get in touch (poor dear is a little confused after calling the shots for so long) but that just strengthened my resolve and my decision.

No reply. It is really hard to do but in a few weeks time you will feel so glad you ignored him.

I wouldn't answer either, but if you do I would say something along the lines of

"I'm just glad it's all out in the open, she must be special to be able to forgive our relationship. If it would help her to talk to me, she knows where to find me"

That'll put the frighteners on him.