How long were you together before marriage/living together?

[Schema]

Probably been done before but ...

How long were you and your OH together before you a) got married and b) moved in together?

Just curious

[N0tinmylife]

Moved in together after 3 months, married after 18.

[Schema]

3 months?? assuming you didn't have kids already.

This is the stumbling block for us

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

We were really young so it's a bit complicated - moved in with him and his parents when I went to University (slightly late, I was 20) so that was after 4 years, but jumped between there, my parents and a friends flat for another 6 years. We'd been together 10.5 years before we got our own place (then got married 4 months after that, then had DS1 2 months after that)

We didn't exactly do things properly

[pictish]

Well he was my flatmate in a large shared flat, so we have technically always lived together.

Conversely, we got married after 9 years together.

[N0tinmylife]

No, no kids, I would have be a lot more cautious now with DS to consider! I think we were very lucky it worked out!

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

I should say that it was me jumping between places - he lived with his parents until we got our own flat.

[MorningCoffee]

Moved in together after 6 weeks
pregnant after 3 months
engaged after 1 year
11 years on still not married

[Ephiny]

Moved in after 5 years (we had a long-distance relationship for 3 years because of work/study, otherwise it might have been sooner), then finally got married and started ttc after another 5 years!

[HeffalumpsAndGoldenWoozles]

I met DH when I was 16 and he was 19 so both were still living with parents, after 2 years he moved in with me at my parents house then 18 months later we bought our first flat together. Married after being together 7 years and DD1 born a year later :)

[SachaF]

A) 20 months
B) started looking for a house after 2 months. So probably lived together after 4/5 months what with all things that go with buying a house together.
Kids 5 years after meeting if that helps.

[bubalou]

Had known each other for 6 years, been together 1 year before moving in, married after 2 years of being together.

[MoaningMingeWhingesAgain]

We got married about 3.3 yrs after we started 'going out' Didn't live together before we got married and only gradually started to live together afterwards!

[mumblechum1]

Moved in together after 4 months, married after 18 months, DS1 born 8 months later .

We'd been platonic friends for 3 years before we got together though.

[paulapantsdown]

moved in together after about 2 weeks, and married 2 years later

we had gone out with each other many years before though as teenagers, and had sort of stayed in touch, so when we got together properly in our late twenties, we didn't have to go through the months of getting to really know each other from scratch - we just fell in love and there was no messing about!

[aufaniae]

Um. Well.

We moved in together when I was 6 months pregnant! We had been friends for over a decade and very good friends for a while. But lived in different countries so a relationship wasn't really on the cards. Or so we thought! DS appeared as a wonderful but very big surprise! (DP didn't move down till 6 months as it seemed silly for him to walk away from his job when we were going to need the money!)

4 years later we're going strong and having another now so it's worked for us!

Plan to get married sometime in the future! Not till a while after DC2 anyway.

[Tokamak]

We'd spent a total of about 5 actual days together when she moved in. We had written to each other for about 2 months after we first met, though. Married 3 months later.

Still together 16 years later, after a bit of a wobble soon after the start.

Sounds rapid, but complicated by the fact that she was a non-EU citizen and it was a holiday romance.

[tb]

Met in July,
started going out in September 2 months later,
married in the August 2 years later,
dd born in the October 20 years later

[Blondeshavemorefun]

Met dh when we were 18 - saved hard and finally brought a place together 7yrs later and happily lived in sin much to my mothers disgust for 8yrs - got married on our 15th anniversary in Antigua

Sadly dh comitted suicide last year so in all we were together for 19yrs and married just over 4

Recently I have met a new partner and we decided to take the plunge and move in together 2mths ago after being together for 7mths

Guess as you get older you do things quicker as reliese life is too short and worth taking risks or you will always wonder what if .......

[HecateHarshPants]

I've told this story before many times but it was about 4 hours.

Met him, went to his house, slept with him [trollop emoticon] he took me back to my place, we did it again and he never left.

Clearly I was gooooooood!

Anyway. That was in the December (97) and in the March (98) we got married.

In the May (98) we decided to move, opened a map of the UK, closed our eyes and stuck a finger on the map and on the strength of that, moved from Derbyshire to Hertfordshire. We gave notice on my flat and our jobs and he went straight down to find somewhere to live and work and I followed 2 weeks later and found a job.

The November (98) we bought a house and the May (99) our first child was born. That year we started a business with £50 that was supposed to pay the gas bill and the following August (00) our second child was born.

Don't do things by halves, me

[milk]

10 months, 1 day.

[Lottapianos]

Wow, some of you lot move at lightning speed!

Moved in together after three and a half years! That was 4 years ago. Not married, not interested.

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

Got together I think about August 2008, moved in together in March, married in August 2010.

I have a mate whose dad is quite religious and he has a study that was done in the US (they're American) showing that couples who live together have higher rates of divorce, which is interesting isn't it, as I believe it's the opposite way around here? She and I think that probably it doesn't make much difference either way, but that if you go against your culture's conventions, maybe people's attitudes to you shake you a bit and that's what makes your relationship less likely to succeed.

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

blondes, that is so sad. I'm glad you had your good years.

[MirandaWest]

XH and I got together at university and got married nearly 5 years later (and didn't live together until then). I think we should have lived together first actually.....