Am going out with a guy who was married 25 years then divorced. He next lived with someone for 10 year - he promised to marry her and didn't and finally she left. He admits he didn't want to get married and shouldn't have told her he did. Alot of it has to do with money and pensions ie if they had divorced she would have been entitled to more than if co-habiting. So I am in my 40s never been married. And at some stage I would like to get married to someone if I meet "the right one". I am starting to feel very depressed as it starts to dawn on me that probably he will never want to marry again - he loved his ex but wouldn't marry her. So why would he marry me? He is 60 and I am 44. I love him. I do not want to split up but I am starting to feel almost angry that I am probably having a relationship that will, at best, lead to co-habiting. I want to the full works - ideally with him but don't want to "just live with someone". That is me. i do not disagree with living together and have done it twice before but feel I want a man to want to marry me and not have me without the same commitment. I am sitting here eating ben n jerrys ice cream at 9am because I feel miserable about this. Am I flogging a dead horse or do you think some men won't marry X but then they meet and marry Y? I suspect if money is the issue, then that won't change.
Just appreciate any opinions, be as frank as you want. Thanks.