I really can't decide whether my reaction to a situation with my fiance is an over-reaction or if any reasonable person would feel the same as I - hopefully the answers I get might help to clarify things for me. It's just a small thing in the grand scheme of things but it's really, really bugging me!
So what's happened is that my fiance has posted a photo of my engagement ring on MY Facebook timeline/profile without having asked me in advance if I minded him doing so. When we got engaged I changed my status to reflect the fact that we had got engaged but I didn't want to post a photo of my engagement ring because that's just not me. For me it was enough that people could see my change of status and congratulate us and as for the engagement ring I was happy to show it to family and close friends. The fact that he's done this without asking how I felt about it first has made me quite cross. Had he posted the photo of the ring on his own Facebook page I wouldn't have minded as that would have been up to him if he'd wanted to share it with his own Facebook friends but without consulting me at all he's decided that all my Facebook friends will see the ring and gone ahead and done it without leaving me any choice in the matter. Admittedly I hadn't spoken to him beforehand about how I felt on the subject of putting photos of engagement rings on Facebook but then it was never something that had come up in the normal course of conversation but had he asked me how I felt I would of course have told him. And even if I did want to put a photo of my engagement ring on Facebook then isn't it customary for the bride-to-be to put a photo of it on her Facebook wall, not for the fiance to do it for her.
I just don't understand what could have possessed him to do this and the only thing I can think of that might explain his actions is that one of my best friends whom I've known for over twenty years (far longer than I've known my fiance) is male and because his mother is critically ill at the moment I've been spending a bit more time with him than I usually do so could it be that he put the photo of my ring on my wall as a kind of statement to my male friend to make it clear that I 'belong' to him. My fiance did comment a few days ago that I was spending more time than I usually do with my male best friend so could it be that this whole thing about putting the photo of my ring on Facebook was done out of jealousy?
I haven't talked to him about it all yet because I really can't decide if I'm over-reacting to the situation or not so I'd be so grateful to get anyone's views on this - how they'd feel if their fiance had done the same.