Cheeky
It is as Charbon was saying and I said in my first post.
What are the fact here? our h thinks that his interests and weekends are more important than yours or the kids. To be honest I think it is reasonable if he has his wednesdays, as everyone needs time for themselves. The problem comes when these interests take over too much family or couple time, as in your case, all weekend, or with all weekends built around it.
What is happening then is that e is being self centred. That is his fault.
And you are moaning and trying to control him, and that is yours. And it will not work. I should know, I did it for years!!
It wont work because he does get enjoyment from football, and he has decided that it is worth bending half an ear to your complaints, or none, because he knows he wont change.
So you have to help him to see the consequences of his behaviour. And to do that you have to decide on a consequence, and see it through.
Tell him what the consequence will be. Make it something related to the offence, in this case the 'weekends are for me' attitude.
Say, well, if you persist in making all weekends for yourself, I will do the same, so you will see what it is like for me. I will take as much time as you do now, and leave you with the kids.
First he will break that, because he wont believe you. He s used to the nagging and getting away with it anyway.
So when he does that carry out your threat. And carry it out every weekend until it stops.
That is hard work, but it will stop the problem, believe me.
And consider first for your self all the excuses you will give yourself to avoid that conflict eg 'not fair on the kids' and think through answers (see my first post.)
It is a simple case of, if he wont freely behave fairly, you set a boundary on what you can live with and you ensure he lives within it to both of your advantages (and the kids).