Does your male partner have friends?

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If so, how often do they see them?

I am wondering about it, I am single.

Yes he has friends but he rarely socialises with them. He sees his closest friends at the gym everyday, but his other friends hardly ever.

This is partly because of the work we are in, he works 5/6 nights a week and every weekend so that limits the chance to go for a drink and such, so we/he mainly see friends at weddings/christenings etc.

He does say that he feels isolated with this life style, so I think if he had a 9-5 he would see them more, although equally he is an unsociable bugger when the mood strikes so maybe not!

Yes, he sees them probably twice a week. One lunch or evening and every Thursday.

Yes, not very often as they live miles away. He is quite a solitary and self sufficient type and doesn't need to socialise with people the way I do.

He moans that he doesn't but equally will not put himself out to keep in touch etc

The only friends he's stayed friends with, since we married 11 years ago, are those that became friends with me too. Likewise if he gets friendly with someone through work or in some other way, he only pursues the friendship if I get on well with them or their partner.

He doesn't prioritise spending time with friends, so only really does if I nag him into arranging to see them/arrange it myself.

no not really. me neither. sounds sad but we're not 'friendy' people - totally happy with each other's company. Handy as we live and work together 24/7 haha

Are these friends the sort he could turn.to if in trouble? Err his relationship ended and he could stay at their house etc. or too casual for that..

He's drifted away from most of his friends, so now his friends that he socialises with are generally the DHs of my friends

Yes completely. Why are you curious?

I think one or two would take him in, but he would go back to his family if he needed somewhere to live. the majority would certainly be there to help/listen/get him drunk whatever.

I read thst it is very common amongst men not to really have friends of their own after being married for a long time.

I personally think its healthier for both men and women to have a good friend as well as their partner.

Yes got to be jeux.

Nope. Neither do I. Neither of us have the interest or energy and we've both always been like it. We get on fine with people at work / other mums etc but niether have any interest in going out with them.

I split up with my first dh due to him always putting his friends first. I got absolutely sick of it. He'd be down the pub every evening and always off with them at the weekend, it drove me insane.

Exactly the same as shakey. He has loads of friends but makes no effort to keep in touch then periodically gets the grumps that he's not seen them for ages. Then I end up having to organise something with their horrible wives so that we all get together, then he says what a great time he's had, then I say 'I cannot stand their wives' (because they are horrible, people, truly) and he says 'It's ok, I'll organise something with just the boys next month' and then he doesn't and six months later he has the sulks again.

It's very irritating!

Dp sees the kind of friends you mention in your second post maybe 2-3 times a year due to geography. We make the effort to go for the weekend or meet half way. One very good friend i have met once in our 3 year relationship, although they email regularly; another lives abroad and I'm unlikely to meet her any time soon.

He currently runs up to 3 times pw - 2 evenings plus Sunday mornings - but that's subject to work and will reduce once dc1 arrives in December (although I'll try and get him out at least once a week, exercise is his coping strategy and he's a bit of a grumpy nightmare when he doesn't go! Luckily he's learned i mean it when i order him into his trainers :o ) That makes up most of his local social group, but not at sofa-offering body-burying level iyswim

We prefer separate social groups, but that works because most contact is phone/email. I don't know if the relationship would work if either of us spent 4-5 nights pw out and about, nor if we didn't get on well with the other's friends+dps...

DH and I have our own business which is v busy and far away from school & uni friends. I often see friends I have made here from being a mum (I look after DS 4 days so get out with him) but DH is sad that he doesn't see his friends much. It really bothers him. Last weekend some of his friends came to stay and it lifted him so much

Yes but he doesn't need to see them much and generally if I invite them round etc. Not like me, I need my pals and have at least 2 x 1hr wine fuelled phone calls a week and go out quite regularly.

My husband has a best friend - he sees him every couple of weeks, they've been friends for 20 years, we were all part of the same group as teenagers

He also has some really good friends from work as well, whom I assume he could stay with if he needed to, I don't really know them. He also has brothers but he's closer to his friends.

Dh of 18yrs goes out tues/thurs with friends normally tuesday is pc/gaming night and thursday is table tennis and a beer

I get the tv and bed all to myself and encourage him to meet his friends at weekend too

But last year when I asked him to move out after he fucked up monumentally two friends offered him somewhere to stay.

Yes, he sees them a couple of times a week, and socialises with some of his colleagues he counts as friends but less often.

Dp is still really close with all his school friends and they all play football every Thursday, and go to watch games together once or twice a month usually followed by a night out. Suits me just fine, I've got my friends I like to see too and I'm happy he's still very sociable and likes to go out at 31!

DH has a few close friends, none of whom live nearby. He is completely rubbish at keeping in touch with them so very rarely goes out.

He could stay at their houses.