Does your male partner have friends?

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If so, how often do they see them?

I am wondering about it, I am single.

DH and I have several groups of friends - men and women. Some are our friends, some are his friends (although I get on with them too) and some are mine (again, he gets on with them). Neither of us really has separate friends that the other doesn't see. There are several people/couples in all the groups who would take one/both of us in if we were in need. We do seem to have a very busy social life, sometimes we're a bit desperate for a weekend off, but it's lovely knowing we have so many lovely people to spend time with :)

DH has several close friends - his university housemates and his schoolfriends (some he has known for 33 years!!). We live in a different part of the country but he is very good at keeping in touch, much better than me. I have two best friends but don't see them often, and many acquaintances.

DH has close friends he's known for 20-30 years and he sees them pretty regularly. I think he'd go to his family if I kicked him out but his friends would definitely be happy to take him in .

Since we got together my close friends and his close friends have all got to know each other really well and socialise together, whether we're there or not (now we have dc's), which is nice for all of us.

No he doesn't. He gets on well with all different types of people and people like him but he never pursues friendships outside of working hours. He goes to work-dos and the occasional gig with a colleague but that's all. He's not interested. I would like him to have a friend but I don't see friends often either so I'm a hypocrite!

No, not really. He just doesn't bother to keep up with people . Christmas cards, emails, phones, nope, can't be bothered and doesn't see the point. So he loses touch with people. Maybe he just doesn't feel the need for friends.

I have been with Dh for 22 years.

He has a band of close friends (that includes his ex brother in law and his ex girlfriends ex husband) that he can go for ages without seeing and then have a run of going out for a game of pool or a few beers.

He has three friends in the same business as him and although they see each other every day workwise for an hour or less they meet up for a night out once every 4 - 6 weeks.

my dp has 1 friend he keeps in touch with regularly but other than that can't see the point in it!! i wish he would make more of an effort

Interesting replies.

To be honest I'm not a terribly sociable person either - but I do write Christmas cards to friends, occasionally we'll speak on the phone, or go and visit each other. Local friends I generally see at activities etc. rather than their houses. I wish DH would make a bit more effort with his.

neither me or DP have many friends. For me it's not thru choice. DP has mates he was at uni/in the army with etc but none local or that he see's often (2 years ago was the last wedding invite).

I thought i had mates that i could turn to in a crisis, but it turns out when my exH and i seperated i had no where to go and they all stopped talking to me because 'they didn't enjoy my company when i was sad'.

So often on here people say 'can't you just go and stay at a friends' and the answer is no for us. Neither of us have any family either.

DH has a few friends who he hardly ever sees and I often used to worry about his lonesomeness (IYSWIM) but earlier this year when he was very ill they really rallied round, asked after him, visited and offered help.

Yes. Dh has a few friends he sees. Not regularly, but as often as he likes to. Yes, he could confide in them, crash at theirs I expect, if needed too. I think?

We both enjoy meeting our friends, either as couples together or just on our own.

We have been with eachother nearly 20 years, married for 15.

Not close friends no. Men who do the same hobby yes. Colleagues from work in the past less now he commutes and non live nearby.

Unfortunately the nearest he had to a best friend died of cancer.
Although even they were friends because DH had worked with his wife and he got on really well with her.
He'd never have gone round to their place if she hadn't invited us and hosted works dos.

DH would much rather stare at a computer than make the effort to meet people.

DH counts his closest friends as those he grew up with, but that was in another country. He's lived in the UK for five years now but hasn't met anyone who he'd count as friends, though he goes for drinks with colleagues.

I also have very few friends. My closest friends were those I studied with, but I don't see them regularly any more. I have socialising pals through hobbies, but would never confide in them in a crisis.

We are each other's best friends really. We go to a lot of events together and we don't really like going out with other couples.

If either of us needed a place to stay I expect we'd just get a cheap hotel for a bit or a rental for a longer period. I've done that before when a relationship has ended, I think I'd be uncomfortable asking to stay at a friend's.

As a male partner.......

I have no 'real' friends. I am self employed and so dont have any work colleagues. Didnt go to Uni and live 350 miles away from where I went to school.

My DW has some friends that she has made through DD (playgroups etc) and via the internet. I have no problem with her seeing her mates and activley encourage her to have some social time away from me and DD (shes a SAHM that is HE DD)

My main hobby was running (middle distance on the road so no need for anyone else) and I dont drink at all so socialising opportunities are limited.

It has never bothered me much as I am perfectly happy at home and really enjoy the company of my DW and DD.

However after some persistant encouragement nagging I have joined a badminton club and now have started meeting other blokes socially which I have to admit is doing me good.

We both have friends that we see together and separatly. We have been together since college and so know most of our friends combined. He spends time with his work colleagues and I've met them but wouldn't say I know them as friends myself and vice versa with work colleagues for me. We both try and get away for a weekend a year with our friends on our own as I think although I enjoy spending time with him, its good to still have our own lives.
We have to have our friends and see them on a regular basis, otherwise its just me and him and the kids and thats no good as what would talk about and ultimately drive each other round the bend.

I love it when he goes out and can tell me what he got up and who said what plus I get some well deserved quiet time in the house!

Tommy, that could be a description of my DP. Same Same just different.
A few of his male friends are still single with no kids so have absolutley no interest in hanging around a middle aged couple with DC... DP used to have a good "girl" friend but she's always used him a bit (borrowed money off him regularly, never paying back and keeping him hooked without never giving anything) and when her DP walked out on her when her DC was 10 months old, she came back with a vengeance, all sweet and apologetic but I made sure she didn't get a foot in the door this time. She still owes him £1.5k, she'll see DP when she pays him back. Not all friends are "good" friends...

Thank you for taking the time to reply.

DH has plenty of friends but none tgat I would call close. He has work friends, biking friends, old uni friends, etc, so does as much socialising as two small kids and running a business allows!