H 'doing stuff' when sleeping...

[jarsofclay]

Has anyone else got/had a partner do this? Is it normal?
It is not a new thing, Has happened on past occasions.
Been married nearly 4 years, 2 kids and average sex life.
Quite often I wake up to him urmmm what I think he is doing 'maturbating' but I can't be sure as I have never looked properly but it feels like it. I then get out of the bed and go sleep somewhere else. If he asks why I usually say he has been fidgeting or snoring but never confronted him directly about it.
Sometimes I lie awake and hope it is not what he is doing and try and get back to sleep, I am pretty sure he said 'come on' when he was doing it the other night though :( He seems to stop before anything comes out though or I have never seen or felt any mess.

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I used to get woken from my sleep to the sensation of the bed shaking rhythmically. Extremely annoying and inconsiderate.

DH has been told in no uncertain terms that if he wants to go and crack one off, he is welcome to, but to go to the spare room and not wake me up.

Can you speak to him about it jar ? Can you sort of yawn and say how tired you are to start the conversation (despite the wanking part i also hate being woken up so would need to address that even if it was 'innocent'). It's one of those things which will play on your mind and you will find it hard to sleep if you are worrying about it anyway.

Is there a usual time it happens?

Leonie, I think it could be around that time after he goes to sleep, not sure. I will have a look at those links ect and see how it correlates. I might have to spuddy, even if it isn't his fault at all, he might still need some help with it if it gets worse.
I am wondering if it is really happening most nights tbh Spuddy, I know it did last night and the night before last (we had had sex that night too) and he had finished.

Crap my ex said I did this. I am never sleeping beside anyone ever again!

You could sleep on top of them instead?

Oh now there is an idea!

I don't believe him, I used to wake with him groping me and he said i started it?? Eh when? I am sleeping ffs you weirdo get off me....

Now I clicked on that link and well how would I know I am asleep! I may install some CCTV in my bedroom for a few weeks.