I've asked a solicitor about this and I'm waiting for her to get back to me, but I thought I'd canvass some opinions.
DD is 4 and about to start school on Friday. I've been separated from ex since she was 18 months. We have a court order - I'm residential parent, ex has lots of access, including during the day Mon and Fri. He'll lose some of this time when DD starts school, although he'll still have her after school on Mon and Fri till 5.45pm plus every second weekend and every Sunday night.
Prior to school, I handed DD over to him at a certain spot on Friday morning at 8.30am. Now she needs to be at school. Ex is trying to insist that I hand her over at the same spot at 8am instead. This means she has an unnecessary trip every Friday morning, with the risk of being late for school, instead of going straight to school, which is across the road from my house. I've said that ex can walk her to school on Friday morning if he wants, but he reckons that's not good enough. Bear in mind, he'll be seeing her later the same day anyway.
Ex has a long history of very controlling behaviour. Since we split, he's make false allegations to police and social services about me, failed to return DD when due, and tried repeatedly to bring me to court. He's a nightmare. He is very involved with DD and they have a strong relationship, but she tells me privately that she is scared when he gets cross with her, and I think she modifies her behaviour a lot to try to minimize his anger.
So, do I give in to his demands, knowing that succumbing to bullying means he'll continue to use this tactic? Or do I refuse to give in, knowing that he'll go into a rage and create a huge amount of stress on DD's first day of school? He's threatening to involve the police, contact the school (great first impression, eh) and says that if she misses her first day of school, it will be because of me. WWYD?