Why hasn't he texted (warning: mature woman acting like teenager)

[TextManiac]

Sorry about this. Have name changed as it is so embarrassing.

Have been texting lovely bloke from dating site, due to meet up Tuesday. Have been getting many many texts each day from him but today, nada. He said last night he was having his mum over for a meal so wouldn't be able to text much, but nothing at all today either.

I am thinking all sorts of paranoid thoughts and also that I might have shocked him by sending some rude texts although he did join in enthusiastically at the time

Give me a slap and tell me to stop being stupid etc etc. I know all this myself and am usually really cool about OD but this time is different.

Is he truly fit enough to be so bothered about?

You haven't even met this man. He could be married, have a child he's not comfortable mentioning yet or be on another date..

Or he's just busy. Stop worrying, what will be will be.

Well, there's a lion on the loose in Essex, have you considered that?!

I'd be slightly suspicious about the sudden text-blackout but you probably need to rewatch Clueless for Alicia Silverstone's explanation of how boy time works. (That isn't meant to sound like I'm taking the piss out of you, this is a situation for which chick flicks were invented).

Don't text any more, wait to hear from him. Am I right in thinking you've never actually met or indeed spoken to this person?! (Not meant to sound like my grandmother).

Step away from the mobile!

You've not even met him. Don't go investing so much in a stranger. Be cool. If its.meant to be, it will be.

Ooh, Lion in Essex, do you think it could be persuaded to come camp in my neighbour's garden?

Oh, I would turn your phone off or put it in plane mode as appropriate. Enjoy tomorrow knowing that at minimum you are playing it cool and not reacting to every beep like a madwoman :) (We've all been there).

He's lovely!!! Well I think he is but can see he wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea. We seem to have a lot in common and I was getting a bit excited about meeting him, which is unusual as I have got a bit jaded by the OD thing.

But just to say again .. you've never actually met or spoken to him? I think you need to hold off on protestations of his loveliness until you have actually beheld him in real life.

You've sent rude messages to a man you haven't actually met yet? Sorry, but that deserves a slap in itself. He might be minging.

And who cooks dinner for their Mum on a Saturday night??

Right, plan for tomorrow is go shopping with kids and leave phone at home. I have got a bit obsessive checking it today. God honestly I don't know what is up with me. I truly never go like this over a bloke.

I'm a bit embarrassed for you. What made you engage with rude texts with someone you haven't yet met?

Whatever... at this stage I would not text anymore, is the date set for Tuesday- as in where and when? If so I would leave texting until Tuesday and if nothing is forth coming text and say are we still on for tonight?

Otherwise, leave it.

I have spoken to him (long conversation) but not met him yet.

I know, I know, everything everyone is saying is true!!

Bet he's on a date not with mum.

It is the weekend. He is married, and been spending it doing exciting stuff with his wife and kids.

I spend Saturday nights with my mum quite often but don't cook for her as she is a faddy one!

Do you think so? Really? (talking about being married). Saturday wasn't a problem just quiet today.

Yes, but would you admit that to a date before you'd even met? Nope!

Can I ask whether the phone call became a bit smutty?

Did he call you? Do you know for definite that he's single?

I sent the rude messages as I was bored, fed up with being single, fed up with spending yet another night in by myself with the kids in bed, fed up with having had no sex action whatsoever for years literally. Seemed pretty harmless tbh, again not something I usually do but sometimes my life just feels very narrow and frustrating and I wanted a bit of safe fun.

Phone call was not smutty. I called him.

Hope he is single but have no proof that would stand up in a court of law.

Text don't beat yourself up over a few msgs. TBH, it's the way of the dating world nowadays. And you're a long time dead, so if you were enjoying it there's no harm. It's only bad if you were going along with it because you felt you should, but it doesnt sound as though that was the case.

He might be on another date, he might be with his mum. He might have no credit on his phone. Sit tight, don't worry. what will be will be - at present tues is still going ahead so look forward to it! :)

hatesponge that was a really nice post.

Yes it was, thank you.