Why hasn't he texted (warning: mature woman acting like teenager)

[TextManiac]

Sorry about this. Have name changed as it is so embarrassing.

Have been texting lovely bloke from dating site, due to meet up Tuesday. Have been getting many many texts each day from him but today, nada. He said last night he was having his mum over for a meal so wouldn't be able to text much, but nothing at all today either.

I am thinking all sorts of paranoid thoughts and also that I might have shocked him by sending some rude texts although he did join in enthusiastically at the time

Give me a slap and tell me to stop being stupid etc etc. I know all this myself and am usually really cool about OD but this time is different.

Ah, you're welcome :) I am a hardened online dater now, and yet I still refgularly sit there giving my phone the hard stare when the expected text or call doesn't appear!

I feel for you.

I am not long out of a relationship (my sons father) but I am DREADING when the time comes to date. I hate the whole dating game!

Maybe he was a bit shocked with rude texts when you haven't met?

Either way okay it cool

Hi....there are many reasons he hasnt texted you. He could be busy or he could have a problem hes dealing with or work he needed to catch up on. But generally speaking men do back off a bit if you persue them too mutch. I know it seems wrong but it always works better if they phone you, they text you first and they chase you. No matter how much we have evolved men still like to be the persuer even if they say they dont. It might be that you have scared him off a bit otherwise he would have texted you today. The best thing you can do is as the other poster said, turn your phone off or quiet until tomorrow evening and even if he does text, leave it a couple of hours before texting him back. Let him worry a bit. He will probably start bombarding you with texts until you reply. As for the rude texts....not appropriate really....too much too soon.

Sorry but I think he might be married too. Be careful and keep your heart safe.

Contact re-established (by him, I've not replied yet). He was at a festival yesterday which sounds reasonable to me. Don't know who with but it's okay with me.

I will take your wise advice and play it a bit cool - maybe!! I have done everything by the rule book previously when OD and got nowhere with the very few I've actually liked. I hate hate hate all the games playing.

The rude bits were fun though! I know it's a bit sad if you look at it with a dispassionate eye from the safety of a good relationship but that's how life is for some people and sometimes I think you just have to take the good bits wherever you may find them.

Hatesponge....a reassuringly sweet post from you

Text I'm pleased you've heard from him! I think it's perfectly ok not to text as he was at a festival - and quite right, don't worry about who he was there with :)

Like you, I hate gameplaying - however the one occasion where I thought I'd met someone who was completely (if not too) honest and got swept away with it all, he dumped me after the first date saying he wasn't ready for a commitment (despite 2 days beforehand urging me to think of him as my boyfriend ). I think sometimes you have to gameplay a bit cos most of them are doing it too!

Really hope tomorrow's date goes well though :)

Oh, I'm really glad you've heard from him! Good luck

Just out of interest why do you and so many women, use the word "rude" when describing something sexual? My wife does it as well. 50 shades...."it's very rude"..is an example.

I find it odd. A man would never describe something that involves sex as being rude. rude seems to be a word to me that makes it all sound a bit wrong.

Just interested and not being judgemental before anyone bites my head off."

Just got back from first date and this man is seriously lovely in so many ways. Seems like yhe feeling is mutual -i can't believe it. Never had a date like it. It's like we have known each other for years. Definitely not married btw, invited me to go to his house whenever I could make it.

Excellent! Now, make sure you keep us all informed of progress

Update please...excited. Should I buy a new hat, yet?

maleview - totally agree, and always wondered the same! I bet it's an entirely English expression (at least compared with Euro languages) and probably inherited from the puritan old England.
Especially if you think that 'rude' as in manners is a big no-no socially and seen as VERY wrong, I don't get it why anything sexual has to be associated with rudeness.

OP can i ask how long have you been doing internet dating (or how many dates)? very pleased for you, though do make sure you get to know him well as a person!

I know what you're getting at and tbh I would be the same myself if I was reading this thread about someone else. Been single over two years, dating six months or so. I've had twelve dates now and of those I saw two for a second date, the rest I was not interested. Nothing beyond a quick kiss on the lips. I think I have a well-tuned twat radar and like I said in my original post, I'm not usually like this at all. Don't know what's going on but it is great. And it's definitely not just about sex although I am sure that is going to be great too.

I am utterly taken aback by all this.