My sex life is a complete disaster since having my first child (18mths ago). Im beginning to feel like an old women instead of a young women in her mid twenties.
First of all I have no sex drive and I mean zeltch. I just find it completely impossible to make the first more although I have tried in the hope it would maybe turn me on if I took charge but it doesnt. Dh normally has to make the first move and has to stimilate me before I even feel slightly turned on. But lately even if he does try to touch me down there I completely tense up but have no idea why. After a while I do tend to relax and become aroused.But then whenever me and dh move onto sex its just a complete let down. Sometimes I feel like I could be on the verge of a orgasm and then a slight move of direction etc and it completely dies away. I havent had an orgasm in months through penatrative sex or through any other method well maybe a mild one.
Before ds we had quite a rampant sex life. I would normally always orgasm through sex and quite a few times dh and I would come together. When I was pregnant I had the best sex of my life and sex now just doesnt come anywhere near it.
I just dont know what to do. I just dont feel in the mood for sex. I do try to make the effort depite of this and sometimes I do start to enjoy it but then it always ends up being a big let down and I end up thinking why do I bother. Dh has always been a good lover and even now he gives alot hes tried other things to bring me to orgasm but again i come close but then it all dies away.
Has anyone else experienced this problem since having children? I dont know whether its him, me or us.