shocked and appalled. I need advice.

[AmIInDanger]

NC. regular.

I have never checked browsing history before never even thought about it. Yesterday I was trying to find an old mumsnet thread and clicked on browsing history.

Found pages and pages of horribly violent snuff videos, specifically women being strangled, all during the night when H is on the computer.

We have not had a 'married' type relationship for about 15 years and live more like flatmates. This happened within a couple of years of being married when I realised that his odd upbringing had left him with issues around women. I withdrew from the relationship and have more or less lived separately but sharing a house.

He is mostly like a bad tempered old eccentric who should never have married although sometimes he can have a vicious temper.

I would never have thought that he would do this (internet stuff) and now I am really worried and possibly a bit frightened.

Is it likely to escalate? Could DC or I be in danger? How do I tackle this? What do I do?

So do you all finding nothing worrisome at all about that man's viewing habits...?

Who has said they don't? All anyone has said. Is this relationship sounds fucked from both sides.

She wants to get her teen son involved ermmmmm...

She has been living with him for 15 years. She should know more than anyone here can tell her. He hasn't escalated that fast has he?

I find the OPs spousification of the DC more concerning.

Hiding behind your children if something kicks off strikes me as very worrying.

I think this man is a survivor of childhood abuse.

That ^

So do you all finding nothing worrisome at all about that man's viewing habits...?

Of course, like I said earlier -I'm not condoning what he's looking at but many people have fantasies albeit fucked up ones but they don't actually want to carry them out

The fact that there was pages and pages in the history point that this could be more than curiosity, which is obviously very worrying sick .

You say you live as flatmates only and that he has a vicious temper.

Now you discover something deeply disturbing. It seems you don't know this man at all.

I would not confront him,I would just make immediate plans to get out asap.

I've thrown him out. As I should have done all these years ago, but there was no mumsnet then to help me see the abnormal.

Leaving this thread now.

What did he say op?

good luck op. pm me if you ever need anything.

Just to clarify for anyone seeking guidance in this thread in the future - 'extreme porn' is an offence under the Coroners and Justice Act 2009. The image needs to depict an act that, if real, would cause serious harm to breasts, genitals or anus. Also covers penetrative bestiality.

I think the OP made the right decision, for what it's worth.

so none of the above then..

op. sod the porn aspect. its the relationship that i think is in trouble, not his choice of porn.

this may prove helpful in determining what is extreme.

most rape porn, bdsm, or snuff porn is legal. im in the police and im sick to death of trying to tell people what is legal and what isnt.

morality is different to legality.

oops.

forgot the link....

www.cps.gov.uk/legal/d_to_g/extreme_pornography/#an02

Probably a good decision op. Hope you are ok.

Wasn't trying to pick a fight, Vicar - just flagging it up for anyone in the future who's in a similar situation. The strangling could come under 'threat to life' in the Act though? Conversations about what nasty perversions do and don't fall under various laws are a common feature where I work

I agree totally about the morality - I wouldn't want to live in the same house as someone who watched that stuff.