Is this sexual assault?

[ramadsho]

upset so please bear with me. Fast asleep when I woke to find my dh rubbing my bottom area between my buttocks. This has upset me in the cold light of day, but at the time I just moved away and he stopped. I told him and he became angry when I told him that it had upset me in the cold light of day. please help.

OMC i am going to PM you as I don't want to derail. If you want to start a thread about your own experience I am sure you would get a lOt of support.

OP, how are you feeling about things now?

Being enthusiastic is not always consent. You may be enthusiastic about receiving oral, the partner may take that as enthusiasm for piv. However the enthusiasm was for oral only so the piv is assault.
So you ask you dh/dp everytime to touch him? How can you show you would be happy for your partner to touch you, before they have? As that could be assault? I may grab dhs bum, that's not assault. If I did it to someone in the street it would be.

Here is an weird example. Dh and I have our own business.
We have a stationary cupboard, all the staff know they are freely allowed to get stationary when they need it. However this is costing alot. So we have changed it. Staff must ask (think some of them are taking it home) for additional stationary so we know who is using what.
We didn't just change our minds and then accuse staff of stealing. They were all made aware that the rules had changed and that consent for them helping themselves had been removed.
Its not a great example, but one where people need to be informed of removal of consent.
I am by no means saying assault can not happen in a marriage, of course it can. Its about respecting someone boundaries, I quite like dh to wake me up, how ever I know if I said or I dictated 'no' he would stop.
Its not always as clear as this IS/IS NOT assault.

AGC, I don't want to be the thread police but can we maybe discuss on a new thread and this one go back to supporting the OP, who clearly hasn't consented to her husband's actions and has asked him not to do some of the things he does.

I think its important to the original post.
As I recall I was not the one that started the part of telling people their dh were assaulting them.

Nor was I, AGC.

OP, hope you are OK. You don't have to stay in a relationship where you are unhappy, whether or not your H has committed assault. If you need to talk to someone, people have suggested Women's Aid up thread and that might be useful.

Sound like you want out of the relationship. You don't need to believe that he has assaulted you to leave. What is it you want to do?

You can do without worrying if you've been assaulted. Usually, if you think you have, you have. And always, if you think you have, that should be it.

Applauds OneMoreChap (and yes, I agree OneMoreChap was also assaulted).

OP this didn't feel right to you, you have felt forced with the hand thing before and told him so, trust your feelings.