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New man on holiday ...

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 18:14

I've been seeing someone for 2 months and he's only holiday with his family atm. he had said there'd be plenty of text and phone contact while he was away. Got an email from him to say there's no mobile signal in there areas where they're staying. All i've had from him since he got there yestereday is 3 emails - pretty short ones at that. AIBU to be disappointed?

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Schlock · 19/08/2012 18:14

If there's no phone signal then he's probably having to log on in an internet cafe to send emails. Sounds legit to me.

Cherubim · 19/08/2012 18:16

You are seriously expecting more than 3 emails a day from him while he's on holiday?? Hmm

Sorry, but I think you need to get a life.

dequoisagitil · 19/08/2012 18:16

Yes, you are being unreasonable Hmm. Three emails in 24 hours is good going.

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 18:16

He's got wifi where he's staying so has been emailing from his phone

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FuckityFuckFuck · 19/08/2012 18:17

He's on holiday with his family, he's been there 1 day and has already sent you 3 emails.

I think you need to chill out a bit and let him enjoy his holiday.

LynetteScavo · 19/08/2012 18:18

YABU.

Chin up, he'll soon be back.

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 18:25

You;re probably right :) I'm worried now as I ended my lasr email to him with "Missing you" - hope that doesn't annoy him or something?

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Schlock · 19/08/2012 18:26

Absence makes the heart grow fonder Wink Leave him to catching up with his family and don't contact him for a while. That's what I'd do. I wouldn't contact him now until he makes the first move. Two months is a very short time and you really don't want to look like a clingon.

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 18:28

Thanks Schlock - think you're right. I'll leave it a while now and see if he emails, then not reply straight back...
God all this dating stuff is hard!!!

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 18:56

Really worried about saying i missed him now!! Hope he doesn't think i'm resenting his holiday, which im not at all!

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 19:29

bump

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Selks · 19/08/2012 19:31

I think you need to seriously chill.

LynetteScavo · 19/08/2012 19:32

You are totally over thinking this.

If he is busy, and doesn't email you for 24 hours, it doesn't mean you are dumped.

Chill out!

I don't think one "Missing you" will come over as suffocating, but generally carrying on like this will.

How many times a day does he normally email you? Confused

thekidsarealright · 19/08/2012 19:34

You'll be reet, leave it be. I guarantee he didn't even think about the "miss you" bit!

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 19:36

When he's at home, on days we don't see eachother, we usually have several texts a day, usually initiated by him.
I know i'm overthinking it, just new to dating after a long time, and really like him !!

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Selks · 19/08/2012 19:38

Well, you can enjoy liking him, but remember it's possible to put someone off by being over-keen.

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 19:39

I know! I think I need to back off a bit now before i ruin things..
I hope i haven't already!

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bleedingheart · 19/08/2012 19:43

You won't have ruined things by putting 'missing you,' just try not to focus on how much contact there is while he is away and hope he has a good time tinged with regret that you're not there ;-)

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 19:48

Thanks :) I'll try!

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blueshoes · 19/08/2012 19:48

He needs to miss you. That is not going to happen as much if you keep texting him. Play it cool. Go out with other men, even better!

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 19:59

I mentioned to him that i was still friends with an ex from years ago, and he seemed a bit uneasy about me going out with him. Although he did say, how would i feel if he still saw an ex, and i know i wouldn't like it!

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blueshoes · 19/08/2012 20:07

Good, it is heading in the right direction Smile. 2 months is early days. You should still play it cool. Let him be the one to raise the issue of exclusivity. You can continue to be vague about your ex. Don't mention anything about not being happy with his seeing an ex - you are not in a committed relationship yet.

Let him ache for you. Smile and be mysterious.

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 22:26

He's already said he's not and doesnt want to see other people and jokinly said he wouldn't like me to - so guess thats exclusive? dating seems to have changed alot in the lasy 10 years or so.
My will power is working - I havent contact him yet. I expect i'll be back for more help in not contacting him!! thank god for mn!!

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theendishere · 19/08/2012 22:53

We're normall texting around this time and it's sooo hard having no contact - I MUST NOT CONTACT HIM...

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theendishere · 20/08/2012 08:39

I managed it and got an email from him late lasy night saying he'd had a good day, what he's been doing etc, but the only thing missing was me!!!!!

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