New man on holiday ...

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I've been seeing someone for 2 months and he's only holiday with his family atm. he had said there'd be plenty of text and phone contact while he was away. Got an email from him to say there's no mobile signal in there areas where they're staying. All i've had from him since he got there yestereday is 3 emails - pretty short ones at that. AIBU to be disappointed?

FFS! Get a hobby. It is genuinely unhealthy to be this focussed on a couple-relationship. He's only a man, and if things don't work out with him there are other men around. And behaving like a desperate whinyarsed doormat who can't think of anything but How TO Make Him COmmit is hugely offputting to nice men and, unfortunately, very attractive to abusers.

Blimey SGB that was a bit harsh :(

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SGB was a bit harsh, but there is truth in what she says. It's not healthy to over-obsess over a relationship.

Seriously you are concerned that three texts in a day and a half is not enough. Any more and I would be worried that your new man had stalker tendencies. Go out for a walk or something.

I know that you think SGB was harsh, and maybe the way she put it was a bit, but her message is completely right.

It's really not healthy to behave the way you are, and it would annoy me if someone was sat there waiting for my texts while I'm on holiday. It's not attractive to be needy, and sorry but you do sound needy. Really needy!

Focus on you and what you are doing, not worrying about what he is doing. Go out, have some fun, read a book, watch a movie; anything to take your mind off waiting for the next communication.

My exDP travelled regularly on business for weeks at a time to South America. I could have sat at home imagining him being surrounded by Latin goddesses, but hell would freeze over before I got into that kind of mind torturing nonsense. It was usually him chasing me for texts that I hadn't replied to as I was too busy having fun with friends while he was out of town. I suggest you do the same. Give the guy something to miss!

I know me and my husband are at the other extreme, but I'd be lucky to get three emails in a week when he's abroad. Really- is this constant contact and texting normal now? I agree with sgb, I don't think it's harsh to suggest that it is ridiculous to spend all day mooning about sending texts, I'm all for a bit of romance but this doesn't even seem romantic to me but am aware I am out of the dark ages and also like a lot of personal autonomy