I'm officially a bunny boiler....

[ginnyjeans]

omg. Alcohol is the root of all evil. I emailed an ex last night after I saw him in Town. Five times. Not once but FIVE effing times. I emailed him because I deleted his number so I couldn't text him. I can't get his bloody email address off my iPhone. He treated me badly. He treats everyone badly. He pursued me and even though I knew he was wrong for me I fell for him. I only saw him for four months. And it's been a year. And I think about him everyday. Its taken me longer to get over him than my ex husband who I have a child with!!! Is he amazing you may ask. No!!! He's Joe average! his life is horse racing, gambling beer and labels. He has no morals!! What is wrong with me! Please tell me I am not alone in saddoville? My dignity over the whole situation is now gone. I look sad and desperate. Boo to alcohol. And boo to iPhones!!!!

sellotape your phone to the ceiling next time you drink

...and your keyboard

Delete, Delete, Delete....

we've all done stupid things like that!

There's something about men like that, they treat us badly and then we make arses out of ourselves trying to get them to rectify it. Learn from it.

I always take out an old phone when I'm drinking because I don't want to lose iphone! Do that and you won't be able to contact him.

Oh criiiinge :( I feel for you. Has he replied to any of them? What did they say?

I once spent hours going through old phone bills trying to find an ex's number (was very drunk at the time) couldnt find it so went and put a note though his door, CRINGE!!! Then another time left loads of voicemails for a guy id had one date with telling him he was rude for not answering etc. Needless to say i didn't get a second date with him. Don't beat yourself up about it, we've all been there.

Good idea about the old phone. He won't reply. He's too much of a coward. I know he's seeing his ex (the woman he cheated on his partner with - and oh yes, she was his partners brothers girlfriend - and it went on for ten years!!) and last night he was chatting some other poor soul up. I don't even want him - why am I so obsessed with him!!! I am in the depths of cringe city right now.

Newmum001. I'm so glad it's not just me!!! Is that sad?? Haha

FermezLaBouche - they ranged from 'I know you will say no but I want you' to 'you are a knob and you said you wouldn't hurt me and I am drunk' to 'you are an effing jerk and you might pretend you don't know me but I have photographs so eff off' shameful. Utterly shameful. And I've just realised one of the messages went to someone I had a few dates with last year who won't know what the hell is going on....

There should be a breathaliser attached to all phones and computers that prevents you from sending anything for 8 hours after a positive reading IMO it would have saved me a few cringy sunday mornings thats for sure.

I've been there too, sorry I couldn't help having a chuckle at your post. Not laughing at you just remembering the stalkerish phone calls/texts when I've been drunk! You were drunk, just try and laugh it off. I had a similar situation and what I found was when the tables turned and he was interested in me, I ran a mile! I think sometimes you just want what you think you can't have, but if you really visualise yourself getting this guy, you'll probably find that he's really not what you want after all. It's just the demon drink that plays havoc with the stalker button lol.

Oh I totally agree with the breathaliser idea!

Ginny if it makes you feel better thats just the tip of the iceberg of my inner drunken stalker. And there will be millions of women all over the world who have done the same as you last night and are regretting it this morning. You'll start to feel less embarrassed in a few days :D

Oh godddd! :( Totally support the breathaliser thing - in face someone should invent an app where if you can type a simple sequence or something, the phone realises you're pissed and won't let you send!
Just take a deep breath and remember everyone's done it at some point. And maybe avoid places you think he might be for a while. :)

Many many moons ago I used to ring my ex (Ds' Dad) when in a club every weekend and sing soppy songs to his answer machine. He always said Sunday Mornings were his favourite times... He'd go for a turd and listen to my drunken concert. Charmer!

We're all guilty of a bit of drunken dialling - Don't sweat it. One day you will laugh about this, but for now I'm laughing at you.

Boys thats hilarious!

Boysrstupid. I'm laughing too. My drunk dialling, texting, emailing knows no limits. So I'm laughing whilst also being totally embarrassed. I may never go out in town again. I should definitely stop drinking!

Damage limitation ; email him a a quick one liner. 'Very drunk last night; apologies and please delete the rubbish I sent you' then delete ALL the emails so you don't reread them endlessly beating yourself up.

Notactuallyme - its not the first time Ive drunk emailed him but I haven't in months and months. I usually do email next day to say sorry but can't see point?

It's funnier because his then gf was absolutely gorgeous and I am absolutely not. However, a few hundred vodka's later and i'm bawling 'Don't cha wish your girlfriend was hot like me' down the phone to him. I must have been his own personal comedy roadshow.

Actually, I'm cringing now with the memories. Thanks for that ginny

Do not apologise - ever! He sounds like a tit, he deserves a bit of abuse every now and again. Laugh it up & forget about ituntil next time

I wouldn't apologise either! It's quite obvious from all the comments here that it happens all the time. If you email him to say sorry you'll spend the next few days checking if he's emailed back accepting the apology and it'll drag the whole episode out for ages. Chalk it up to experience and nurse your hang over with large amounts of chocolate.

OMG I am for you! I used to do this to an ex ALOT!! he was my first true love and I was heartbroken when he dumped me. I used to phone his house at 3am after leaving clubs and demand to speak to him!! his poor dad never once told me to fuck off!!

One time I chased him down the street-double and I was in such a hysterical state that he had to take me home with him!!

I also wrote him letters and sent birthdays cards for a couple of years after we spilt!!

Tbh I have never really gotten over him. Now I console myself with spying on his wife on fb!-he married the gf he met straight after me!!!!

There I have spilled my guts so hope you feel a bit better now op.....

Hahahahahahahahaha sorry I do completely sympathise with you although it is rather funny I've text, e-mailed and posted stuff on fb whilst being completely rat arsed a bit tipsy. I'm currently pregnant though so at least for the time being I don't get that dreaded gut wrenching 'wtf, did i do last night' as soon as I wake up!

And I've been saying a breathalyser on the laptop/phone is essential for a few yrs now! I do vaguely remember seeing something on TV a while back about an app or something that makes you answer a maths question in order to use the phone/send something, can't get apps on my phone so can't check (and tbh, I wouldn't know where to start, god I sound so old!!)

I don't have an iphone but can you link it to the computer and delete his e-mail that way? Failing that, restore to factory settings but then you'll loose all our other data too

I'm cringing for you but these tales are very funny!