Husband just walked out

[tillymint74]

my Husband of five years has just walked out on me an our 10 month old. He says he needs space to sort his head out. It is so hard as he says he fancies me, loves me, is my best friend but is not in love with me. He says he is empty inside.

So here I am alone and so confused! Any help out there?? X

Thanks everyone for all your help and advice. I have a brother but he lives abroad as do my parents. I do though have good friends who are there for me. He has been on this morning wanting us back, how do you get any sort of trust/ respect back? I know I will be thinking overtime every time he goes out or is on his phone. I believe trust is one of the most important things and I have none! It would be funny if it wasn't so very sad.

My priority is my DD everything else can take a back seat for now. Luckily the house etc is all on my name so no problems there. There is no money so if I choose to a few boxes of things and he is gone. I know he may try to sting me as nothing would now supprise me. I am fighting all temptation not to go into his work tomorrow with our DD and show her what she has done. She is a single Mum so should know, how can people be so cruel?

Hi Tilly she did it because she is as selfish as he is.

How long do you think this beautiful beautiful one moment of sex only [yeah, right] has been going on?

WHAT prompted his speech (which yes was a classic I immediately knew there was OW)? Have you suspected something?
Has he been a bit wierd lately?

They sound like they deserve each other.

Trust me Tilly, the OW deserves only your pity. She is in a relationship with a ticking time bomb. The path she has embarked upon is going to lead only to her own heartbreak when your H shits all over her too.

Thats her problem now.

A good book I can recommend reading (and him if he wants to regain your trust) if you do decide to give him one more try, like he is begging, is Shirley Glass's Just Good Friends. It certainly helped me to look closely at it all and ask my Ex some important questions. In my case it helped me realise it had never ended and we couldn't work things out. It was well worth the read for me and in some ways healing, as I read about the behaviour of an adulterer and how his mind worked. It was eye opening.

I know you must be very angry with the other woman, I know I was. But he has probably rewritten history and told her a variety of things to justify the affair. No doubt she believed every word. Foolish woman He may even have said you were over and just living together for the sake of the baby. Your H is the one you should direct your anger at the most, he should never have cheated on you, he's the despicable man. I would try and retain your dignity, hold your head high and not go into their work. But it must be so so tempting. I do know woman who have done that. Who can blame them.

Hope you're ok tonight.

Yes Cake, what's the old saying: when a man marries his mistress, he creates a vacancy

Hi Tilly - I've been out all day after an early start so only just caught up with this. I'm sorry we were right but it's fantastic that you haven't been strung along for ages. What an idiot he is! Tell him he needs space - now he's got it. Have a think about what access he should have to dd but don't let him into your home.

If you do decide that you want to give him a second chance then you have the upper hand. But give it time - certainly don't rush to take him back! xx

Hi Tilly how's it been today. ?