DH is mad at me again:(

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I always seem to be wrong :(.

First there's my diet. I want to lose weight and get healthy. Part of the reason I put on weight was I was skipping meals to save money then would eat junk like a bit of chocolate because I find it so difficult not to eat.

Dh on the other hand finds it easy. We are still have a tight budget so I was talking about meal planning to be healthy and cheap. DH told me I was being stupid and I should just stop eating. He says only obese gluttons like me eat as often as I do. He cites as proof that I have only lost 5lb so far.

Today I had a migraine so after the school run and feeding Ds I went back to bed for a bit. He's moaning that he has done loads of housework (vacuumed the living room)while I have done nothing is only made lunch, cleaned hob and worktops, washed dishes, put in washing, and got baking stuff sorted fir dd's cake. I know the plan had been for me to get a lot more done but I have done more than nothing.

Finally he's annoyed with me that DS won't nap for more than 5 min and is going through the separation anxiety phase so screams every time I leave the room to try and get things done.

He told me I wasn't allowed to MN ages ago.

What would you like to have happen OP ?

I'm starting to think I want to be on my own but it scares me and I'm terrified he'll get custody.

When he told me not to MN he said he'd take DS with him when he left.

Allowed?

He cannot threaten you like that. I suggest you get a solicitor. A good one.

Delete your net history. Always log out. Is he aggressive? Has he ever been physical with you?

You need to speak to Womens Aid. Thats your first step. He is abusive. They can advise you about the best steps to take.

Do you have access to your own money? Do you have any savings?

Never been violent. My wages go into my own account but no savings.

Sounds like you need a plan to get out. To stop having to delete your history, enable private browsing every time you connect to the net. This encrypts your connection and doesn't save your browsing history.

Call Womens Aid. They'll know how to help you.

All the best.

It is terrifying to think of being single but actually being single is bloody brilliant !

Seriously he wont get sole custody whatever he tries to intimidate you into believing. It doesnt sound like you are ready to leave but just maybe begin to get advice and Womens Aid would be a good place to start

Dont let this drift on thinking you dont have a choice , you do.

OP, men like him are all mouth. They criticise and threaten and menace, they erode self confidence until you believe they are all knowing and all powerful. He has frightened you into believing that he has all the power and presents statements as if they are facts. I have just left a man like this.
You need to arm yourself with your legal rights should you separate. This is really important because by doing so you will take some power back. I would suggest going to citizens advice, explain your situation and explain that he is threatening to take you child. He cannot simply take your child, he can fight for custody but unless he has very good grounds (which he hasn't)he can't take him.

He won't get custody, especially if you leave your job. Who does most childcare? I bet its you.

Not allowed on mn, what a fucking arse.

A lifetime of a controlling arse sounds far scarier than being single to me!

He won't get custody. He does not have superpowers. He has no rights over you. NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS. Talk to Women's Aid and get to work on your escape plan, you will be so much better off without him.