AIBU?

[MarigoldsInTheWindow]

In thinking that the advice on this site, and the experience many women on here show is that they just get on with things as if they were single parents despite they have partners?

i see it in my own life so its not a criticism.

my p is at golf with work.
Hes not called at all all day, after many reqs to call me he did.
Answered phone, yeah what.
i asked where he was (golf then bbq at work mates house after which he goes home), he says what shall i pass you round to everyone here?
i said, no, are you going to be out all night then (i had wanted to go out this eve). He just said dunno, hardly spoke. hes obv pissed.

I just hope he dousnt come and try and throw up on me again like the other week.

why are men such knobs.

Well having read that it does sound as though your DP is a knob.

As for all other men...well some are knobs and some aren't.

Much the same as women really.

No. Sorry. Not normal. My husband would think twice before talking to me like that, and vice versa.

Yes sometimes you do just get on with stuff but not all the time. Not all men are knobs.

YABU

If your partner is a knob its because he's a knob, not because he's a man

Sorry, he is a knob.

My DP wouldn't treat me, or talk to me like that.

Does he do this often? He isn't showing you much respect tbh.

My DH wouldn't act like that to me nor I to him.

I hope somebody has some good advice for you. No one (make or female) is perfect, but your situation sounds very sad to me.

i guess i meant when they are knobs, they really are knobs. and by they mine.

just tired i suppose

You are nothing like a single parent, what are you on about!?

Your DH is an arse. There are some women on here who also have arses for DHs. It is no way universal. Why are you with him?

Nothing like being a single parent. My DH has to work overseas at times, and when you are left for months holding everything together then you get some insight into the life's that single parents lead. I take my hat off to them because it's bloody hard work for a few months, never mind years!

Your DH is a knob though, mine would never speak to me like that, pissed or not! It's nothing to do with him being a man!

YABU to generalise, when really you are talking about your situation.

Gah. Please let this not become a competition re who has it hardest. Sounds like OP is having a hard time and is feeling totally unsupported by her dh. Book yourself a night out soon lady!

The odd blow out is ok, I think. I'm glad my DP doesn't puke on me - but he does piss himself If it's happening quite often I would not be happy.

Oh fgs, cut the OP some slack. Sounds like she is well fed up and rightly so.

I have been in that situation before. And you know if he does come back in time for OP to go out, he will be too pissed to be left in charge of kids (my ex did that a lot).

OP, any chance of getting a baby sitter so you can still go out?

Your dp sounds like he is being a knob. My ex used to do things like that & I was so frustrated I felt I could bang my head off a wall. So so glad we split up, my life got much better when I left him. You deserve better. Could you ask someone to come round to look after kids & if he phones when your out treat him the same way

im sorry, i didnt mean men i meant him.
and i know its not the same as being a single parent.
I just notice that more and more the advice is, cook for yourself if hes a knob and not him.
tidy up and put his stuff in a bag if he wont help.
just mo9re and more as though we are just getting on with it as though men arent even a part of the family.

i know, im talkiing about me but i do notice similarities in others.
I cant get a baby sitter, and yes he will be too pissed.

it will pass, im just feeling a bit shit!

He disrespects you and takes advantage.

yes and i nag and stress him out. and ruin things for him.

he dousnt talk. everything i do is wrong adn we dont share the same values.

nothing thats important to me is important to him, promises we made to each other years ago he now goes back on. and he gets angry becuase i dont want to have sex with him, half the time i hate him and half the time im just trying to get along.

im tired (and lazy)

Does he live with you?

OP, why are you with him? He sounds vile.

hes 28.

I cant help him with work, theres a pattern repeating itself.
everytime we dicuss things im just bringing up old stuff at any opportunity. we never dealt with any of it in the start.

you know when you make a huge deicsion and you do it for someone else because you think their need is greater than yours? and they maike you promises and then brake them.

he never understands just how hurt i am.

the one time i should have been selfish i wasnt, and i kind of feel like hes had my best years and pissed over everything.

i will talk to a friend tomorrow, thank you .