Help me to ignore this

[onesixonetwo]

Posted this week about drunk DH.

This evening, right now he's having a verbal go at me.
Im trying to ignore him.
Please talk to me about nice things so I can ignore what he's saying.
I'm stuck here DD is in bed,
Thanks

He's not a nice bloke. Leave him. There is life after alcoholics x

What do you mean by 'having a verbal go' at you? Is he drunk, is he raising his voice, is he swearing at you?

If so, call the police and have him removed from your home until he's sobered up or seen the error of his ways.

Seriously, this is no way to spend a Friday night.

Oh....haven't read your other thread but does this happen regularly?
Do you want to be with him?
Can you get him to leave?

How does it usually end op? Does he get violent?

Think about your dd snuggled up in bed. The smell of her hair and the feel of her lovely warm skin.

Is there a chance you can get into bed and cuddle her op? Or will he just follow you round the house and wake her up?

You don't have to live with this.

ok, talk about nice things? mmmmmm vin deisel.

jason statham

what are you going to do tomorrow? hopefully the weather will be nice. just with who ever you want to do it with. kids? family? friends? a nice park? shopping? anything. and... tomorrow is another day.. and im sure a sorry will be in it somewhere.... push for flowers and chocolates.... or even some nice earrings.. if he does it on a regular basis..... make him REALLY make it up to you this time.. and think about how ull make him pay. LOOOOL

He won't wake her up.
He's just busy telling me how shit I am and it's all my fault.
He keeps saying I an .....insert insult here...then he says this is a circular argument and starts arguing again.
Sometimes he gets violent but he won't tonight,just nasty.
Can't just ring the police & say DH is calling me names.
Besides he's quite calm, just vile & trying for a row which he isn't getting.
Trying to leave. Have appt with housing next week.

No,there won't be flowers or chocolates in my near future Im afraid. Just more of the same.
Give me the strength....

I woUld quietly record him.... Play it back to him when sober

good positive... housing apt...... wish i had one of them. look to a fresh future then. after hardship comes ease. n it will come. buy urself the flowers n chocs. x

olympia good idea!

Go to bed. My ex was like this. I used to get caught up in it, listening to his shit and not being able to cut him off. Trying to defend myself. Ignore him and imagine Idris Elba is there to bop him one on the nose!

I have recorded him in the past but he doesn't care.
He knows this is the last gasp so he's going to squeeze the life out of it.

Im not a Vin Diesel fan but it did make me smile, thank you.

My other half used to have goes at me randomly.. saying things that didnt make sense, blaming me for stupid things... He loved having a go in the middle of the night and waking the neighbours... we talked about it when he was in a good mood and he decided to go to the doctor... and now thanks to mindbending wonderful prozac I have my fluffy hubby back :)
Happy thoughts Happy thoughts xxxxxxx

Hi One. I read your post the other evening and was impressed at how carefully you'd thought out your plans, what needed to happen etc. I hope you're ok now - hopefully he'll go to bed soon?
Very good that you've got a housing appt - a positive step to look forward to...
So if not Vin Diesel, who is your eye candy??

You really do not have to do this. It is not your destiny. This is not your lot in life. I have been in your shoes and wish someone had said this to me at the time. You don't need this. Life will be better for you. Please believe this.

I lived through this - for too long... Ten years post divorce and still the repercussions appear. Listen to Mumsnet. Wish I'd had it then, not just for me. I was so naive then and didn't realise what it would do in the long term to my children.

Hmmm.
Im loving some of the Olympian chaps at the moment.
In that respect it's a good time if you need a distraction.
I would gladly go to bed but that can escalate things so Im better off sitting here taking it.
While he was telling me what an effing b I am a minute ago I had a quick look on Plenty Of Fish. A new man is the LAST thing I need but it cheers me up to look when he thinks Im listening to him going on.
In RL Im quite nice really. Honest.

I am taking steps to leave. I wrote about it in my other thread.
I know I don't have to put up with it in the longer term but to quote the smiths 'it's here and it's now' so here I am.
Im just doing what I can to get through day by day.

Had to smile at your comment about POF - I've just hidden my profile as I've met someone and crossing my fingers!
Yes, the olympics can provide a welcome distraction eh? It almost makes me think of joining a gym (note the 'almost'!)
I'm sure you must have lots of questions about relocating, schools, etc but I suppose it all happens a step at a time - when you're out and the dust has settled, you'll be able to get your priorities sorted out and start looking to the future in a much more positive light. When's the appointment?

It's Tuesday. Keeping everything crossed for good news.
He's asleep now. Let's hope it stays that way.
Thank you very much x

Make sure you delete your history.
If he starts again think about you and DD snuggled up in bed secure in a new place without him there.
Good luck for Tuesday x