Help me to ignore this

[onesixonetwo]

Posted this week about drunk DH.

This evening, right now he's having a verbal go at me.
Im trying to ignore him.
Please talk to me about nice things so I can ignore what he's saying.
I'm stuck here DD is in bed,
Thanks

You CAN ring the Police. That is what they are THERE for.

It is my advice that you do this - and ideally ring behind your back so he can't see but they CAN.

I didn't think the police would be interested if all he was doing was calmly but drunkenly sitting on the sofa next to me swearing at me, calling me names and trying to get me to argue with him?

He's drunk again tonight but happy (!)
So he's not being abusive tonight, I must admit I am finding it all quite difficult to endure him really.

OP - sending you love and strength for the coming days and weeks. PLEASE, please call the police if you are worried. Stay strong x

Sorry, I know I'm drip feeding.....

DH who is by now drunk but is speaking nicely just started a whole long speech about how lovely I am after an argument and how I am so much nicer. Today I have been feeling cowed, frightened, dismally unhappy and despairing. I have shaken uncontrollably, been sick twice and had a raging headache with the worry of how I will manage to stay here until I can find suitable alternative accommodation.

So he likes me best like this? He is an utter tosser.

I keep reminding myself in my head 'I am leaving, I am leaving, I am leaving'.

You will get there, honestly you will. Just keep on going for now.
In a few months you will look back and this will seem like a past life and you will feel lighter than air with the weight that has been lifted off your shoulders.
Keep on going for now with that future vision in mind.
You and your DC can have and WILL have a better life. All my best wishes for the future. x

Abuse is abuse, it doesn't have to be physical. Have you been in touch with Women's Aid - sorry, I haven't seen your other thread. Worrying about your physical health tbh. There is a better, brighter future out there for you but I know how soul destroying it is having to wait this torture out until the time is 'right'.

Hi and thank you.
I contacted Refuge, who advised me of my options and said one of their support workers would be in touch with me. Following their advice I spoke to my local authority housing department and I have an appointment there on Tuesday of this week. I do know there won't be any immediate solutions so I am braced for a long wait. I will contact the police if he physically assaults me, i spoke to them on Friday and although they did their best in the circumstances as they were at that moment there is little they could do. So they left and he started to have a verbal go at me and I started this thread.
Right now I am ok.
It's daytime, he's sober and probably won't drink tonight so although the situation is dismal it isn't dangerous right now.
I have eaten a bacon sandwich today and kept it down so that's good. I am keeping myself going with thoughts of things like how I will decorate a new flat or house and what I will do when this is all over - and Vin Diesel, obviously .

Playing the long game is hard. For me, it was about 6 months to get things in place and that seemed to take forever at times. Good luck, keep focusing on those positive thoughts.

I went to see the housing person today, she was great. Non judgemental, helpful and gave me some useful advice.
I am wondering if DH might be having an affair which would be annoying because I want to leave in my own way, not be forced out of my house and into potential homelessness.
DD is doing well, she knows I've seen housing today and is happy that we may get a house together.
Even though I know where everything is at now I feel exhausted.

It is exhausting - mentally stressful. But you are making good headway. In the next couple of days things will fall into place a bit more for you and you will feel you are making positive progress.