Would you go to a wedding when you don't know anyone?

[OhEmGee24]

Apart from your (new ish - 7 months) boyfriend? He's an usher at his friend's wedding from a different part of the country and therefore I've never met any of his friends from there. Ive never even met the bride or groom!

What would you choose to wear to a country/provincial wedding in high summer, fly?

Reposted in style. I'm 5'5", 32c, size 8 and I'm 24. Dragging the bf shopping now to help. He says I look "stunning" in anything but partners are compelled to be polite aren't they!

They might over-egg it a bit, but the underlying truth is that he likes how you look and is proud of you and to be with you.

Ummm, you're 24 and a size 8? And you're worried about...what exactly?!

I'm 39, greying and definitely NOT a size 8. In 3 weeks time I have to travel 300 miles to meet the ENTIRETY of dp's family for the first time at a family wedding. You have nothing to worry about

Seriously, though - go, have a fab time, bet you'll look gorgeous whatever you wear! Everyone's in a good mood at a wedding, you'll have loads of people to talk to when your bf is doing his duties, don't worry.

I bet you do look stunning!

Pretty frock. Nice shoes. Comb your hair. It will be fine.

fwiw, I first met all of my dp's friends at a wedding - we had met each other abroad & had just come back to the country, I knew none of them ' travelled down wedged in te backseat with 4 of them. It was fine - champagne flowing, everyone is in a good mood at a wedding!

Look for a simple fitted shift dress; small floral or abstract print or in a slubweave silk or similar, that will take you from morning to evening party with a change of jewellery - faux pearls for the wedding breakfast/bling for the disco.

Nude shoes and a short fitted cream linen jacket or the ubiquitous pashmina plus clutch and you're ready to go.

izzy are u my mum ?

Ok Iz are you hiding in my wardrobe you weirdo . I have the nude shoes, the clutch, either a nude or white linen blazer and a small clip in flower hair thingy rather than a stupid full blown fascinator. But unless I find a dress, that's all I'll be wearing!

If I'm the only one in your family with a knowledge of how to dress so as not to frighten the horses or detract attention from the bride for every occasion, fly, I suspect I am your dear Mama.

As long as the dress isn't glitzy/shiny/fussy/deep plunge neck /non-existent back it'll be fine, Em - and make sure it's got a well-oiled zip for ease of removal when you return to your room after the celebrations

Izzy I now think you are my mum, but who says I'll be going back to my room, I had my eye on the best man. Shit I'll have to stop sharing stuff, or name change.

Hi OP, just wanted to add that I have done this, also 7 months into relationship with DP (now DH). I was 32 and a size 14 so not nearly as foxy as you , also lacking in confidence and most certainly not a looker at all. I knew no-one at all, not even the bride and groom, and DP was an usher so I hardly saw him all day.

I found people to be very drunk friendly, wanted to know who I was etc. (in a nice way), and met some of his extended family who were lovely and who we are now closer to as a result.

You should of course go, and don't worry about what to wear, at all. I wore trousers and a top as my chunky little legs are allergic to skirts and I don't believe in wedding "outfits".

Hope this helps, and have a great time

The only reason you'll be going back to your room, fly, will be to clean it up

I just asked him whether he thinks I should wear my hair up or down. I wear it down all the time apart from a quick ponytail of scruffy bun. I'm useless at hair!

Try a substantial fascinator then - the sort that looks like a small hat. You get the advantage of easy to wear from the headband anchorage, without it looking like something random that's landed in your hair.

No

Oh if an h is going ? Of course

Izzy how can you see from there that my rooms untidy ?

There's a poser for you, fly. Could it be that I'm skyping or have access to a webcam hidden in your bedside lamp, or could it be that I took one look at your room, quickly shut the door, and fled downstairs in search of mother's little helper to bleach my eyeballs?

Hope you got a nice dress, Em. Do try to keep it on when in company

It's just one day and you're really not going to be the centre of attention! Go and have fun.

What do you think of me, iz?

Izzy just tidying my room now, then off to Debenhams to get a nice floral dress, and a lovely pair of flowery doc martins, there.. I'm nearly a fully fledged female !!!

Yes I would go, and have done so this summer. It was a good friends wedding, she lives near me now but went back to her home town down south to get hitched. I had never met her family except for her mum briefly. A couple of other friends from here were also going, but evening only and then making it a mini holiday.
So just me and ds (6) rocked up ( my dh couldn't make it) for the whole day but I found it great fun. DS was a fantastic ice breaker in his little kilt outfit ( we are Scottish, wedding was in England) but everyone was welcoming, and even more so after a couple of glasses of pimms after the ceremony.
I smiled at everyone, kept my body language open, and asked simple questions like "so how do you know bride / groom", "what a lovely venue, do you know how old the castle is?" even just a "gosh, I like your shoes"
Your DP wouldn't have asked you if he didn't want you there, so have a lovely time!!
Oh yes and v I want to be 24 again!!

Aw little man in a kilt, cute!

I've decided I'm going all out for the occasion. Not to impress or anything, just to give me a confidence boost. So booked to have my hair and nails done on Friday morning and have just had full legs and Hollywood wax so boyfriend will be grateful

Good for you OMG, that should help things. I had my hair done and a spray tan, since the weather has been so awful and I still had winter blue white Scottish skin. I'm sure you will have a great time!

And yes DS was ridiculously cute, if I do say so myself. He loved all the attention!!

I have bought this dress, just hope it comes by Thursday (and fits! ) www.asos.com/Lipsy/Lipsy-Satin-Dress-With-Embroidered-Neck/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=2278405&SearchQuery=lipsy%20embroidered&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=20&sort=-1&clr=Cream