Need some intelligent opinions - bullshit radar is going off

[paranoidIndeed]

I'll keep it brief. Met a new guy a few weeks ago, I really like him but things are not seeming quite right IYSWIM? spidey senses are tingling. I'm known for being a bit paranoid but something is telling me to be careful here.

It's hard to pinpoint exactly what it is. But one example - he shows me pictures of his house - gorgeous 4 bed detached house - but in the picture it had no furniture in it. Now he did say he's selling it so fair enough, most stuff he'll be getting rid of but he's supposedly still living there?? However he tells me he stays at his mums house a lot to keep her company = his mum lives on a nearby council estate. Nothing wrong with this at all except he seems to be there all the time. And tonight he tells me his mum is away this weekend - seemed to be hinting that he has the house to himself - something flashed through my mind that it's HIS house?? I checked 192. He is listed as living in that postcode but a few years back.

He dropped me off home on Tuesday. He said he was heading in a certain direction home so I said "are you going to your mums?" and he stuttered and couldn't answer me properly. Seemed totally caught off guard.

Another thing - he's on a good wage - yet he only works 9-4pm and seems to have time off whenever he wants. For example we're going out tomorow and he said he'll pick me up at 1pm. I said "are you not at work?" and he said he had the day off?? He also has next monday off.

I am known for being paranoid. Tell me this is a paranoid state I'm in right now?

Another one who says trust your instinct here.
Find out more. Switch your bletherometer firmly to 'on'.

He does have a nice car - not an ott sports car but the kind of car you would expect someone on his salary to have. He also always pays for my meals and the majority of my drinks as well as the cinema etc.

Just ask him. Explain that you have trust issues because your ex lied to you so much. Explain that some things he's told you don't add up and you need him to explain things again. If you still think he's lying, end it.

If he lives at home with his mum and has any kind of job, he can probably afford a few nice things, pay for your meals etc.

If you're suspicious enough to be checking all this when you're early enough in to have not been to his house or met any of his friends and family... I'd cut your losses.

Say he has sold this mysterious house he owned, what's the plan now? Look for somewhere else, stay with his mum indefinitely or hope you will ask him to move in?? That would have me very worried!

He says he's looking for somewhere else to buy. He's given himself a month apparantly.

I'd keep my distance a bit and see how seriously he looks or whether you think he just wants to stay with his mum until the new girlfriend asks him to move in... If he's the sort of man that wants 'looking after' by a woman that would have me running!

I think with these things though, make sure you don't get too emotionally involved until you're sure and generally it will become obvious soon enough whether he's a keeper. I hope it works out for the best.

Bullshit Man should definitely be on this case OP.