Getting sexually aroused and horny - but not wanting an orgasm. Common?

[BarneyRub]

Strange question I know, but is it common for a woman to regularly get sexually aroused (e.g. by reading erotic literature or spending time having a sexually explicit conversation with a man) to the point where she is wet and horny -- but then not actually bother to have an orgasm?

Would it be normal to do this on a regular (3/4 times a week) basis?

For the purposes of this, assume the following :

• In general terms the woman has no difficulty in achieving orgasm
• The woman finds having an orgasm highly pleasurable (i.e no pain)
• The woman has the means & opportunity to have an orgasm (solo or with a man) if she wanted to
• The sexual arousal is genuine (i.e. not faked for someone else's benefit)

Bit of a silly question isn't it? I'm pretty sure every man that experiences arousal or an erection doesn't automatically go on to ejaculate....

I see summer holiday boredom has kicked in already...

True... but not many men CHOOSE to get aroused and not go on to ejaculate

It's a genuine question

You know this for a fact? So all those men out there CHOOSING to watch the beach volleyball & gymnastics for reasons that have little to do with sport, and getting a little twitchy in the trouser department, they're all popping their corks are they?

I see the male equivalent as 'standing to attention'. I doubt many men go so far as getting erect watching the volleyball.......

As you say, it's a strange question which begs the question of why you want to know before it can be answered.

Is this someone you are in a relationship with OP?

yes, sometimes if i get aroused, i enjoy the feeling of being aroused and heightened sensations so much, i delay actually doing anything about it.
More often happens when me and dp are being flirty and feeling horny, but we keep it going for hours rather than try and escape for a quicky

Why do you ask?

i presume most people do similarly. Maybe not all the time, but here and there.

Ha ha! Cogito, your response made me chuckle! Lol

Weird question indeed.

I would say you're over-thinking this.

I didn't really want to go into the details, but just want to know whether it's credible.

OK here is the scenario :

A married woman has had an 'inappropriate relationship' with another man from work which includes exchanging up to 90 sexually explicit text messages a day, 3 or 4 times a week over an extended (10 week) period. She also admits to having 'phone sex' with him on a couple of occasions (which she says was faked her end) and admits to being so wet/horny on occasion that she had to dry herself. Also one physical meet with the other man which was intimate (but not sex).

The woman said she has never had an orgasm over this (either solo or with man) - despite investing considerable time and effort into the affair and having opportunity and ability to take it to orgasm (either with him or solo). Sex life at home was fine.

Is the woman married to you by any chance?

Not relevant

.... so she is then.

maybe she is... maybe she isn't... either way, it's not really relevant to the question?

Of course it is. If this is some random friend having a girly chat with a mate then there's no reason to doubt the story. If this is an errant wife claiming to her husband to have had a relationship with someone but 'it's OK because I didn't come'... .then it's relevant.

So she has cheated on you and it's important for you to know whether she ever had an orgasm as a result?

Any number of people could tell you here that, yes this scenario is credible for them but how will this help you be convinced that this is feasible for her? she could still be lying.

That scenario sounds like "I did not have sexual relations with that person" and we know that just meant no PIV sex.

Barney what difference would it make whether this lady actually came or not? If she was cheating it is irrelevant surely.

Yes, it's perfectly plausible in that situation that she just enjoyed getting worked up by all the horny talk.

Personally though, I'd be surprised if she didn't take it to climax at some point thinking about this guy.

I guess it's a question of whether the person in question is telling the truth or fibbing...

As a man I find it hard - in fact impossible - to believe that you could invest time and energy getting that horny on a regular basis, and not see it through to conclusion.

To me, I see it as being like running a marathon and then stopping 100 metres before the finishing line.... or breaking into the sweet shop but not taking any sweets?!

If it is choosing it is probably that the woman in question is not comfortable enough with her partner to experience orgasm or that her partner isn't great at bringing her off and she's being kind and a bit shy about it... I think anyway...

If you think you can only get joy out of sex if you 'see it through to conclusion' then I feel very sorry for you....