Getting sexually aroused and horny - but not wanting an orgasm. Common?

[BarneyRub]

Strange question I know, but is it common for a woman to regularly get sexually aroused (e.g. by reading erotic literature or spending time having a sexually explicit conversation with a man) to the point where she is wet and horny -- but then not actually bother to have an orgasm?

Would it be normal to do this on a regular (3/4 times a week) basis?

For the purposes of this, assume the following :

• In general terms the woman has no difficulty in achieving orgasm
• The woman finds having an orgasm highly pleasurable (i.e no pain)
• The woman has the means & opportunity to have an orgasm (solo or with a man) if she wanted to
• The sexual arousal is genuine (i.e. not faked for someone else's benefit)

I'm afraid you come across like you don't understand the female sex drive at all, OP!

Summed up - orgasms are lovely but absolutely not essential for the vast majority of women. Essential as part of a sex life but not as the target, the goal or whatever.

Men who understand this tend to be better in bed. And have bigger willies.

It really is down to the individual OP.

Personally i get turned on very easily and like to take it all the way every time (situation allowing of course!) - either alone or with my DH.

If others are saying they like to work up and just stay at that point then believe them.

Another one really curious as to why you ask. Genuinely - we might be able to be of more help with a bit more info :)

I am not particularly bothered about the end result. I do prefer the early days and chase aspect. So for me, yes that is feasible.

Well, I guess you live and learn. Thanks to those who understood the question and gave an answer.

& in response to the "orgasms are lovely but absolutely not essential for the vast majority of women...men who understand this tend to be better in bed" - can you elaborate? Everything I've ever read - and most women I've spoken to on the subject - say that men who invest in their partner achieving orgasm tend to be the better lover?!

As for willy size, I drive a Porsche so you may well be on to something there ...

Well orgasms are essential for me and most women I know. I would not be satisfied by the behaviour in your op either.

I wonder This Person is equating having an orgasm with PIV in regards to cheating?

op has had a bit of a hard time i think.

i DO think it's a little odd that someone getting that aroused by phone sex etc etc would deliberately stop before orgasm. i mean, why would you? because you felt it meant you weren't cheating? because you got that far and then thought "ahh well i can't be arsed now?"

whether or not the OP is over-thinking it is another matter IMO. If I was the OP and my partner had cheated on me I wouldn't give a rat's arse if they'd orgasmed or not, they'd be out!