Would you be annoyed at being snooped on?

[BadLad]

Or, as those in favour of CCTV cameras say, why worry if you have nothing to hide?

My e-mail, phone and facebook passwords are known to my partner. If she snooped I'd be disgruntled, rather than angry.

I don't know her passwords. Would probably get them if I asked, but have no reason to.

Just asking because I have read many threads where the OP has found out about a cheating partner by snooping. Obviously "you snooped on me" is a weak defence to "you cheated on me", but I am surprised how many people do it, and therefore I suppose think it's acceptable. I am presuming that plenty of people snoop, find nothing and therefore don't post about it.

'snooping' (to me) implies that something is hidden and must be found, secretly. It's a, what's the word? sly sort of word.

I don't have anything that can be snooped on my husband knows my passwords, my phone doesn't have one, if he wants to rummage through my bag, etc, good luck to him We also aren't bothered who opens the post.

So no, I wouldn't be annoyed. Because I don't care what he looks at.

However, there are those who do care and they have the right to! There's no right or wrong in this, only what's right for the individual.

I find that a bit creepy happygoluckyinOz. If you've already told him the conversation, why whould he then go reading your phone and messages? I don't buy 'nosiness', sorry, it sounds like he's checking up. Change your passwords and then see what the reaction is.

I wouldn't mind if dh snooped on me, but I have nothing to hide anyway. He wouldn't bother tbh. I can see his emails etc whenever I want to. I don't want to, but sometimes I have to use his computer and Thunderbird is usually open on the screen, so they're there. It has occasionally happened that a name has caught my eye and I've said "oh, you've had a message from X, how is he/she?" but I haven't really felt the need to actually click on the msg.

However, if I were having an affair, it would take him a while before he started suspecting anything. Once he did, I think he would ask me. Presumably I would lie. This may satisfy him for a while, but I imagine that eventually he would resort to snooping in order to discover the truth. Of course, at that point I would be angry and upset because he'd snooped, but of course I'd be angry and upset at having been found out.

I think that if you have good reason to think that your partner is lieing to you, then snooping is a last resort to get at the truth. I also think, that if it's that bad, you're better off parting without worrying about the truth or bothering to snoop, but it's natural to want to know and to need some justification for doing something as significant as leaving your partner.