Mens toys?

[MsOnatopp]

Was chatting to a male friend over the weekend and we decided that women seem to be fine with dildos and vibrators etc but seem creeped out by a man who wants a toy for himself. So all I want to know is, are you creeped out by a man wanting to use a male toy (artificial vagina) and if you are, why?

Possible last minute Aldi alternative though

They do indeed Erik

And are you genuinely not a bit creeped out by this?

I recently had to research and write about sex toys for couples (for work, honest) and it never occurred to me to include fleshlights. I did include vibrators because you can both use them - he can watch you, you can use the buzzing action on his sensitive zones, etc. Whereas - to my mind at least - it doesn't seem like you can 'share' the fleshlight experience in the same way.

Plus I agree with the feminist viewpoint.

Well it got a positive review from one of it's purchasers....and he's answered all our concerns on how to keep it clean.

A lot of detail from him about holding it under a pillow etc.

I wonder if it' s a common site in hotel bathrooms for cleaners - the flashlight with soft skin sieve drying on the sink of the executive bathroom.

I think I actually find this one quite innovative. It's definitely the dead looking body parts that seem to freak me a bit, both for males and female users.

I see how you could use it in a couple situation. I don't see how its any different to her using a vibrator on herself with him watching or him using it on her. I'd be quite happy to do that.

Lostinapaercup said some women feel threatened because men may objectify them and may not see the difference between a toy and a woman. This is the key for me. It's all 'may', and we have no right to put that on men. He may, he nay not. It seems very unfair to think this of all men. We would hate it if women were generalised in the same way.

Well I've just spent ten minutes laughing at the bizarre vag in a can. It is a bit creepy, however I am definitely all for each to their own so whatever floats your boat, etc.

However - I'll get a flaming for this - if I caught DP using one I would find it repulsive and, if I'm honest, a bit tragic. In just the same way I felt tragic after using my Rabbit for the first and only time when I was single. I think this is because I want sex to be more than the actual act, I am quite romantic (naive?), and prefer insane sex as a couple with a feeling of security and cuddles afterwards. That's probably not everyone's cup of tea either. But you don't get that when on your own with a sex toy, which is probably why I don't like them or use them on my own.

I just hate the way women are objectified when it comes to the sex industry, and those 'dead looking' items are repulsive to me because it suggests the men using them don't give a shit about women except as something to shag. Probably not true at all, but that's the impression they give. I'm not necessarily anti, just not for me, thanks!

But then some men really do love their human sized dolls. Remember that thread with the links to the websites? Men taking their sex dolls on tours round the country to visit other friends with sex dolls. Sex dolls having pool parties etc.

So perhaps it's not entirely objectification?

I read an article once about making your own fleshlight.
It involved a rolled up towel, a rubber glove and lube.

So on a feminist angle would that be ok?
As it isn't realistic looking, just a bit odd.

Hmm, I don't think I have a problem with it. A bit perplexed though but only due to my own experiences - for me, I see why women need sex toys because it is harder to climax alone without one... Whereas male genitalia is a lot simpler and only really needs a hand.

It seems a bit weird to have something actually resembling an orifice. Which does seem like double standards. But then, I only got a Rabbit because I had no idea what else was out there, rather than actually wanting something penis-shaped IYSWIM - I would be happy with anything that vibrated :o

American Pie

he he, yup i thought of the apple pie scene some way up thread :o

Myinnergoddess
What is 'real doll' fetish if not objectification? It is literally reducing women to objects.

Myinnergoddess
What is 'real doll' fetish if not objectification? It is literally reducing women to objects.

I found myself thinking about this on the way back from the shops

It seems to me to be something about representation and fantasy. For men a hand can provide relief, but like tickling yourself, it's better if someone/thing else is doing the stimulating. Pies, cored apples, melons with holes in them seem OK to me, as the man can fantasise the woman of his dreams (which might be you!) A fake fanny though is a bit too specific and unlikely to accurately represent that of the fantasized woman

I'm not sure about how I feel about men using sex toys.
But I can't wait to see what amazon comes up with for my suggested purchases now!

Pies, cored apples, melons with holes in them seem OK to me, as the man can fantasise the woman of his dreams (which might be you!) A fake fanny though is a bit too specific

Surely a fake fanny can aid the fantasy just as well as a melon with a hole in?

And I'm a bit unsure whether the way we seek pleasure in our own company has anything at all to do with what women think about it.

I suppose so, SonOfAradia, just trying to pinpoint why I too find the idea slightly distasteful.

I find the idea of someone fucking a pie a bit tbh

Odd that I don't --although deffo no eating it afterwards

(Sorry)