Who or what you love more?

[JazleEd]

Is there anything you or your partner love more than your partner? For example you love your children more than your partner.

I love my children more than my partner.

He is next on the list, but the kids ALWAYS come first.

Not sure that's great relationship advice, but I will always, always love my children more than anything else. I adore them.

Nutella. Out of the jar, with a spoon.

Priority goes me and DS as #1 and #2, then gentleman callers, friends and immediate family, pets etc all vying for third place ... :)

Without a shadow of a doubt, with no hesitation, the kids first, then DH. We have a great relationship and i love him loads but our children will always come first. And i would totally expect his answer to be the same. He might perhaps think that our 2 cats take higher priority than him as well though
For me the love i have for my husband is different to the all consuming love i have for my children. Its just different. Of course if anything happened to my DH (god forbid) then i would be devasted, but if it was a choice of him or the children then no contest i'm afraid!

My dh. Then kids. Love them wholeheartedly obvs, but my dh first. awarded bad mother badge.

We were together 20 years before children came along and as much as we love family life and being all together as a family, I think we are both looking forward to being 'us' again.

Does it have to be a more thing? Perhaps I'm talking out of my bum; I don't have a partner or children but I didn't love my mum more than my dad, love isn't like putting sugar in tea, is it? He gets two but she gets half ...

It's limitless and powerful and grows - you can have six children and love them all just the same as one!

MushroomSoup- that sounds tasty haha. Islagiatt - that doesnt make you a bad parents at all!!.
Sorry it wasnt really advice, Ive just always wondered who was peoples first priorites an such. My boyfriend loves his Dog, cars and time on the computer more than me. He hasnt said it is. But you can tell it is. Well his dog is definatly first in his life. Mine is my daughter. Then boyfriend and so on. I just wish his was at least our daughter first.

Defence makes a good point - its probably not quantifiable.

I love my husband. But when my son came along it was like the sun outshining the moon.

Without a doubt my son. I think secretly I love my brother a bit more than my husband too. He's the only family I have in the world outside of the one we've created.

Like my son, I'd be devastated to lose him, and will never replace him.

With my husband I have loved before, and though it would take time, I could probably love again.

How's that for a cold hearted bitch!

I love my children more than anybody or anything else in the world, dh second. It's a different kind of love anyway I think.

I see it like this ...

DH and son are drowning (both can not swim for arguments sake) - I will always save son over DH...

both sons are drowning ... I couldn't choose who to save as I love them the same.

There for I love my kids more (however I come a close second followed by my DH!)

Kids first, then DP. He feels the same about the kids (them first then me) and I wouldn't have it any other way. I do adore him though.

Pie - does that mean you'd let both drown? Hopefully not!

I thought it was a pretty obvious guideline to protect the weakest first, which means younger child over older sibling and kids before adults.

I don't see how you can compare love for children to love for a partner, it's apples and oranges. DP is just as irreplaceable as a child, to lose them would feel like I'd lost all the amazing moments that only the two of us know about, it would be like losing a chunk of myself that no one could ever replace, even if I were lucky enough to find love again. [feels sick at the thought of it].

For all that though I would still feel morally and instinctively driven to protect the more vulnerable children first and foremost, that is just the way it works I guess. Some people might interpret that as a greater love for them but as I said, I just don't find it comparable.

DD first. No question.

Then DH

Kids first, then DH.

And I really love DH.

DH knows this and is fine about it.

I agree the love is probably a bit different. With your kids, you are their protector.

However, I really love my dh, don't believe anyone loves their dh/so more than I love mine but I still definitely love my 2 dc's more.

Hmmm, "so" in my post above is meant to be dp.

my dc's.

then my mum.

then dp.

DCs first, every day of the week, and twice on Sundays .

With the drowning thing, I would automatically save children first because they are less likely to be able to save themselves.

Just split up with my dp, however for me it always went dd, dad, sisters, rabbit, dp. They just dont factor to highly for me.

Dc first without a doubt. Then dp.

DC first. DH second. It had better be the same for him, because if there were a fire and he saved me before them, I'd throttle him.

MushroomSoup LOL.

My DP and DS1 both have

my love equally as without one I wouldn't have the other. (posted too soon)