What a fine mess I have got myself into!

[sadwidow28]

My next door neighbour (2 children aged 2 and 4) has been suffering from a DV relationship for at least a year. She finally broke down in the back garden tonight and told her family who are over from M

They wouldn't believe her so she cried on my shoulder over the garden fence and I asked if I could go round and support her. She welcomed me in - as did her family (who I have met socially).

The husband has called me a "witch" and told the family that I have 'no life so I have to interfere with theirs'. The family couldn't control his violence and had to hold him back as he tried to attack me.

The wife has admitted to the family that he punches her - but is denying that he smacks the children and is trying to 'make light' of putting a 4 year old child in the back garden at 10.50pm when she doesn't eat her tea. The police attended the home last year when the wife reported the husband.

I took some responsibility on last August with SS and said that I would always know when to make the phone call. I hear lots of things even though I don't want to hear them.

I will lose a neighbour over this - but I am convinced that this man is out of control. Tomorrow I will have to phone SS. I think she is safe for tonight because she has family staying.

What a mess!!!!!

glad you are home, take care.

I have told a RL friend about the situation (a person who has also witnessed the 'shouty behaviour' from next door when he has visited here).

My friend was the 'skipper' on the narrwboat when I had female neighbour, her non-UK parents and 2DCs visiting for the day so he knows the family.

I do think I can manage all eventualities now.

Thank you for your advice and support. It is appreciated.

Don't blame yourself - you could have ignored or minimised what was going on and at least your neighbour knows she has at least one person on her side.
As for his childhood being difficult, some of us can use that NOT to make the mistakes our parents did. It's certainly not an excuse to visit a miserable existence on our children.

Glad you feel safer and a bit more confident. You sound like such a lovely person who has been to Hell and back and I'm sorry this fuckwit feels he has the right to threaten you.

Okay - I have to get myself over the fear!

I came back home on Wednesday - I haven't been outside my door since until I took the dog to the vet for his annual boosters tonight at 5,40pm.

As I returned to my home, I could see the violent twunt and female neighbour's family on the ajoining drive, I kept driving and hid down a cul-de-sac. (What a total whimp I am)

I knew before I left for the vets that I was persona non grata. We have had an arrangement about moving our empty bins back up the drive for years! Twunt moved his bins and left my bin behind my car!

Ah well, c'est la vie!

I only have one number in my head for the next time: 999

I won't be around here from Sunday. I have LN to mind (Mum with her new boyfriend yet again) and another funeral to attend down South. I am dusting off my SatNav again for a long and hazardous journey down some more motorways I haven't negotiated yet

I have tied a knot in the end of my rope and I am hanging on!

You are doing brilliantly! I don't blame you for avoiding him. As for the bin - that is an illustration of how weak, pathetic and frightened he is. He is being petty because he can't be anything else. You hold all the power here, not him. He is the one in the wrong.

Whereabouts down south are you coming? I am in the south east and happy to warn you which roads are best avoided if you can!