Sexual relations in your 60s+ is it still 1)Happening 2)Fulfilling?

[Challen]

I don't know if it's too impertinent to ask online, or indeed if anyone will be brave enough to respond...

I am 43 and not currently in a relationship, but have always been curious if couples sustain a happy and healthy sexual relationship past menopause and way in to their 60s/70s/80s (are there any people in that age group on Mumsnet?) I ask as in my previous relationship, I was frequently given the ice cold shoulder deliberately in this area and feel I have really missed out on a lot! I am just wondering as I love this physical expression in a relationship, and if I have a few more decades yet to look forward to! Assuming I find a man.

My parents are late 50s/early 60s and my mum enjoys the mortified look on my face when she discusses it. Parents don't do it after all

I know that my brother and SIL had a happy and fulfilling sex life into their late 60's, it only ended because of a serious illness my brother has, I know they both miss it.
If I though I only had a few years of sex left with DH at 46 I'd be very unhappy, although my FIL says he doesn't miss it, his sex life ended at 55 with the serious illness and subsequent death of MIL, he's now 70.

I'm 58 and enjoy sex. I was worried that the urge would disappear after the menopause but it didn't, though, thinking about it, orgasm takes a bit longer.

Can't speak for myself but would be devastated at the thought of my sex life ending due to getting older.
My FIL has a stash of some kind of viagra, he's 65 this year, so I'm presuming he and MIL are still at it :)

My friend is in a relationship with a man in his mid 70 who is, to put it politely, very demanding .

I don't know about the 60s, but with regards to late 50's:

1. Yes but not so often as in my 40s
2. Oh yes.

Rag he may be demanding but if he can 'perform' for any length without the tablets, he's unusual. Lots of older men now do take viagra, but ifthey have health reasons not to, don't expect consistency, OP. My friend was going out with a fit man of 70 who wanted sex a lot but she got fed up with the efforts needed to maintain the act, i.e. most of the time not enough for her to orgasm. As to women - it's individual, some lose it after menopause due to fall of hormones and dryness, but some still like sex though I haven't met a woman of 60+ who wanted a lot of intercourse! I think women are more after affection and being tactile after about 65. I suppose if partners aer of similar age it works, but unfortunately not many men of 65 fancy a woman who is same age unless it's a longterm partner.

We are still at it,not saying our age but quite old,we tell everyone we're trying for a baby cos we want one of those big prams with big wheels. Lots of our friends in their late 50's and 60's say they gave up sex years ago. what a pity.

A friend of mine is just past menopause and it hasn't made any difference to her sex life, thank goodness . Her last bf was late 50's and, although he had problems erectile problems with other women, he was fine with her.

My mum met someone after being widowed, they were together from mid fifties till early 60s. They had a very active sex life (I am glad for them but wish I did not know this )

It's like the village shop...use it or lose it.

I accidentally saw my DF's prescription pinned to his notice board in his kitchen recently and the last item on it was Sildenafil !

He is widowed and 74!

I was a bit eeeeew when I realised but good for him!

My parents are in their late 60s and are definitely still at it. I don't know nor am I going to ask whether it is fulfilling.

My in laws are 62 and 72 and we know not to go in when the back door is locked!! Fil is very proud that at 72 he's still got it makes me laugh, but not dh!!

I sure hope I am still having and enjoying sex at 60+.

I wont be stopping with my dp until one of us is no longer able to!

I am 39 and my ex partner (but sort of still spend most Saturday nights together ) is almost 25 years older than me. He's prob worse now than when we met 10 years ago as he's rather 'restricted' now rather than those heady at it all the time early days

fingers in ears

We're 59 and 62 and still quite active in that department.We've been at it for 44 years so are getting the hang of it now.Perhaps not as often as when younger but about once a week on average.

likeatonneofbricks that is not how it is according to the older couples I know. Retired, they have more sex than those I know in their 40's who are still tired from juggling work, kids and the lack of privacy that can arise from older teens. It depends just as much on lifestyle, health, activity levels imo. Plenty of floppy 30 year old men who smoke, plenty of lively older men.

just telling what I've heard (we share details with that friend), also carrielou and maras say similar things (once a week is not exactly enough for some women) - but my friend was younger that her, that's why i said that for a much older woman this may be more than enough. Biologically a man in his 70s couldn't maintain erection for long and if they do they prob take viagra which is fine anyway (but you wouldn't know that fact about those couples). I also know that my mum as well as her friend lost interest after divorce at around 55. it's all individual.

sorry, friend was much younger than her P

big difference between a man of 60 and one of 70, it really does go downhill (no pun haha). You can always go for a younger man of say 55 when if you are a keen woman in your 60s though!

I have more sex in my late forties than I did in my 20's

I can't see any reason for that to start to decline any time soon

lack of hormones dryness ? That can be sorted if it happens

erectile sluggishness ? That can be sorted or play around with other stuff if it happens

as the kids fly the nest (and get the fuck out of the house during the day/evening), the inventiveness kicks back in

Ewwwwwwwwwww. My Mum and her partner (late 60s) are at it all the time and feel the need to inform me that the latest 'rabbit' is quite a find! They talk openly about sex. I don't find that bleugh. But the thought of my ex in-laws who are early 60s doing it makes me want to vom. Can't explain it :-o