Are we Boyfriend and Girlfriend?

[becca44]

Been seeing a nice guy for couple of months and we agreed after the third date we were not interested in seeing anyone else.

We have a lot of chemistry and we both want to have sex but i said that i only want to have sex if it is a relationship as i don't do friends with benefits or casual sex. He said that he was fine with that however i don't know what i am with him. Am i his girlfriend or not? We act like gf and bf and spend time together but i asked him the other day would he like to be gf and bf and he wouldn't give me an answer.

What should i do wait for him or just ask him where he sees it going?

I cannot see the point in dragging out the dating process when you clearly like someone and want to have sex with them and would rather just give a relationship a go rather than take things extremely slow. I am not sure when people say take things slow whether they mean they don't really want to committ or want a relationship.

Am really confused as to where i stand.

Any advice and should i wait around for this guy to tell me if he wants a serious relationship or move on?

Rebecca

:/ from what I've heard webcam means you, more often than not just get a load of men asking to see your tits or randomly wanking at you although it could just be my friends that attract that

Finally i get an email from him saying that he has not come to terms with being dumped from his last partner. He had a partner who stole money from him and finds it hard to trust. This is over a year ago.

He shouldn't be dating if he is emotionally unavailable stupid fuckwit.

Via email?! Tosspot.

Sorry to hear that but I think the signs were all there sadly. Easy for outsiders to see but not easy for you to see as you were too closely involved plus he was keepng you hanging on just enough to make you believe he was interested.
You're definitely better off without someone like him.... I mean what's your picture of a good relationship? Is it being stuck on your own all weekend with no comms from the guy? I bet it isn't.
Sorry he's turned out to be a twunt.

Just read through all of this and Becca44, i'd forget him (easier said than done i know) and move on. There are loads of great men out there, you dont' need to be stressing over this one! And like someone else said further up in the thread, are you sure he's not in a relationship or still with his wife. Sounds a bit strange, that he only texts late in the evening etc. Hope you're ok :)

Yes @ OhEmGee24 email, gutless. I have decided to get some counselling so i avoid attracting emotionally unvailable men and focus on some new hobbies. I move on pretty quick anyway can't see the point on moping if something is not meant to be. Wasn't really a relationship now come to think of it as he couldn't make up his mind. Another tosser gone. Good riddance to bad rubbish!

I meant to say my parents thought he was too old for me and said that they i should be wary of dating someone 17 years older than me. From now on ill steer clear of older guys and only date 25-35 my own age. I always thought older guys were more reliable and knew what they want but how wrong can you be. Oh well we live and learn :-)

I don't think you should limit yourself to a set age category. You might meet a lovely 36 year old and then what? My boyfriend is 8 years older than me and perfect and I like that he's older.

Perhaps you are right OhEmGee but don't you think 30 and 47 is way too much age gap?

I like to think i am open minded to age gaps but maybe that isn't the issue with the OP.

5 years age gap is not much though. I was just thinking a guy who is 47 might have too much baggage and incompatible with someone like my age who is 30. I honestly don't know anyone who has an age of 17 years but i guess it must work for them.

I think age and stage are both issue. This is a 47-year old man who has yet to divorce his wife (separated 14 years.) I look on the undivorced wife as his get out of all commitment card. Seriously, OP, in 10 years you will be 40 and in three years he will be 50. At 30, you should be fighting them off with sticks. What has this old codger got that you should care that much?

He is the first guy in 6 years to show an interest i suppose but i think your right nkf he is too old and done a lot more living than me. Ive never been married and he has his own home and everything none of which i have yet. We do have common interests but its not enough. I am so glad i never slept with him though. Despite a couple of other posters suggesting not to completely right off internet dating, do you think i would find better guys to date offline by joining some interest groups? I already swim and go to gym.