My husband has forgotten my birthday. Am I over reacting?

[moobrain]

I feel so sad
It is my birthday today. Not a 'big' birthday but still my birthday.

Usually I am very excited re: my birthday. This year DH was working away for last few days so haven't banged on about it like I usually would. But woke up this am expecting at least a card, little pressies and some treats...

I wouldn't have minded if DH had been mortified and apologetic for forgetting, but instead his attitude was 'birthdays don't matter as you get older'. I know that this is his opinion but I've always done the card/cake/small gift thing for him.

He's making me feel materialistic but it's really not about the money. We never spend more than a few pounds on each other anyway. A card and breakfast in bed and a homemade card from DD (she's only 1 so can't do anything on her own) was all I wanted.

Just feel so let down and disappointed.

Am I behaving like a spoilt brat?

No. I'd be gutted. Bastard.

No!
It's your party, cry if you want to!

Darn tooting right he should manage something, however small.
Upset? I'd be fuming.

Tell him how you feel.

Happy birthday, by the way!!!!

First off- happy birthday!

Secondly off your not behaving like a spoilt brad- if that was me I would be fuming at dh, and how dare he try and make you feel materialistic.

He should be grovelling to you. Is there somewhere you can take yourself off for the day tomorrow as a treat? X

Sorry, also...
Happy Birthday from me.

I'm meeting some Mummy friends for lunch (with our DC) tomorrow. I'm going to blow the budget ... starter, main AND pudding

Thanks for letting me feel normal.

I mean even my aunts and uncles remembered

Happy Birthday!

No you're not over reacting, in my experience men just don't value birthdays the way that we do.

I suspect your husband feels bad about forgetting but rather than say sorry he's gone into defence mode.

Happy birthday from me

Oh, poor you. What a twat!

Happy birthday, and from me.

DH did this about mothers day once and he will never, ever, do it again.

Have you told him how let down you feel?

Definitely not over-reacting. That's beyond shit. How are things otherwise?

He's being a pig! You have a 1 year old too this is such an important birthday.

and for you, Happy birthday xx

Oh yes spoil yourself tomorrow

Thats terrible

I know your DD is only 1 but he still should be starting a tradition with her of sorting out little treats like cards for you etc. Its a lovely thing to do with a child and he should have taken pleasure in it.

Happy birthday from me too.

Happy birthday. No you are not over-reacting. Course it's not about materialism. My bessie mates didn't acknowledge my birthday last month and it hurt a lot more than I thought it would. when I make the effort to babysit their four children and remember all their birthdays and Xmas' I realised that yes it did piss me off that they couldn't even bother to text me. Big wake up call. Sorry from empathy to hijack!!!
Kick his arse!!!

Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday dear

Happy birthday!
Oh and no you're not overreacting.
I was gutted when my XP forgot my birthday (and Mothers day, and Christmas!)
Guess the outcome is in the 'X'!

Fuck, I shall start again....

Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday dear moobrain
Happy birthday to yoooooooooooooou

What a wanker to forget your birthday!

for you.

Happy Birthday.

What a knob your DH is being. I have to say, if he decided that 'birthdays aren't importnant' he really should have let you know this BEFORE your birthday. By saying this on your birthday means he probably doesn;t think this, is probably just trying to cover up the fact that he did forget.

I would ber very exceptionally unhappy about the lack of thought and recognition.

ekidna I'll be your bessie mate and you don't even have to babysit Mine are up-ish now.

Poor you. Happened to me this year too and no matter how you rationalise it, it still hurts
Happy birthday!
Make sure you shoehorn it into conversations with him in the future - if he ever says he feels unappreciated, tell him to imagine the feeling of being forgotten on your birthday.

I would be mightily pissed off at this. It's nice to have a little card from the dc's! Didn't he even think of that?

My dh doesn't think birthdays are very important but he knows it's more than his life is worth nice to remember someone's special day. especially mine

If he has a lot on maybe it is understandable he forgot but you don't seem to communicate properly, he days birthdays don't matter but you fuss him and you think they do but he says they don't. In the scheme it is an unimportant issue but still a bit sad to be left wanting on your bday. Probably need to talk.

mygladhart

Thanks curiousmama I'm gonna take you up on that! We can go on the lash and bring your kids too