drunk texting

[loganberry12]

Had a family bbq and now alone at home missing my ex i want to text him telling him how much i miss him but know i shouldn't howdy other cope with these sad lonely moments ?

Good for you. Each day gets easier

When I told STBXH that DD 4yo was wetting herself as a result of him leaving, he first accused me of making cheap digs, then he said that if she was an inconvenience to me he would have her all the time.... No concern for her welfare at all.... He thinks being a good dad means spending a few hours a week with her.....

This from the man who can't manage to have her a day a week in the school holidays due to work..... ( but can manage a week abroad with his friends in September......)

Twunts the lot of them ......

The more i read on mn about what utter wankers men are the more i think I'll never have a relationship with a man again they are all idiots who follow the same script

Oh no! Gone too far the other way Logan! I had a dickhead abusive ex but my DH is the most wonderful man ever! They are all wrong until you find one that is right!

You are lucky offred cos i don't think there's many of them

I know its early days as STBXH only left at Easter, but I despair of ever being in the right place - mentally and physically - to meet Mr Right! I honestly thought I had met my soulmate in my H and cant ever imagine feeling that way about anybody else ever again!

and also think why would I want to, as Loganberry says, they are all complete and utter wankers :(

but there must be some nice guys out there somewhere, so we mustnt give up hope....

To be really honest I actually believe having been through abuse makes it more likely you will be able to both spot and keep a good one. I'm not sure I would have found DH, looked at him twice or married him if I hadn't been through what I have. I love him so much, I think as someone who has been treated like crap in a world of women who have been socialised to seek cold, distant, shitty men you generally have first pick of the truly good ones who are often written off as "too nice" by other people.

I thought my ex was too nice and one of the good ones after going through a really horendous relationship again before him again but he turned out just another bastard . i really don't think i could trust my judgement again :(

haha, my ex said just before he walked out on me "The trouble with me is Im a really nice bloke and I just let people walk all over me" He was actually smiling as he said it.........

Yes, so nice, you walked out on me without talking to me and turned to another bloody woman! Twunt!

Im sure there is somebody out there somewhere for all of us. I hope we dont have to wait too long to find them though.

I think there is more than one. I've had absolutely excellent life changing women's aid counselling, I would recommend it if you think you need reprogramming and also being on your own for a while!

Where would i find out about women's aid? I think it might help

www.womensaid.org.uk/

www.womensaid.org.uk/ oops!

Using the tool to locate your local organisation I think would be best for you.

Thank you offred

my friend is starting a course with them in September, she is really looking forward to it as she has heard it could be really beneficial.

I'll never have a relationship with a man again they are all idiots who follow the same script

Erm. No. Really, we don't.

No more than all of you are like my ex, serial shagging GF.

Today im wishing i could turn back the clocks and say and do things differently and save my marriage feeling a bit low today :(

I was feeling like that a couple of days ago, if only my H had talked to me we could have sorted it out. I wished I could go back in time to before it all went wrong and be happy again.

Sadly, if only, just doesn't solve anything. We really need to grieve for our idiot ex's. I have been assured that time is a great healer, but I wish I could just fast forward through it all...

Sorry you are feeling low. It's that old roller coaster again..

Drunk calling is the worst. Once i'd had a big night out, woke up the next day in a haze, convinced i'd somehow gotten UFC fighter Michael Bispings phone number from Twitter. Anyway i thought i'd give him a call, so i rang up and some woman answered, so i asked if it was Michael i was speaking too (Don't know what i was thinking) she didn't didn't seem best pleased when she explained she was the wife of a Michael i used to work with. Crazy.

God i hate myself i text him again asking if he had had sex with anyone since we split up ( he says he has no ow he left cos we wernt working out) he didn't answer now im thinking why the he'll did i text him that now he knows im still pineing for him and he wouldn't have answered anyway. i really am my own worst enemy. im going to be embarrassed when he picks up our dc on Sunday!!

Mih, done now. Don't be embarrassed that you are not a abusive scumbag with no feelings. Xxx

Thanks offred why do i keep punishing myself again?

Because you are not a robot. You are a person with feelings who had had a significant relationship with someone who messed with their head and treated them badly. It would be a bad sign if you weren't feeling really sad right now. Healthy to feel bad about something which makes you feel bad, normal to not manage to handle it exactly the way you should all the time.

Texting him like that isn't what you are doing to punish yourself btw, it is the guilt and the feeling terrible about having done it.