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Original poster

what sort of things do you do with your dp's?

48 replies

stitch · 04/03/2006 20:29

just curious. a mumsnetter mentioned making cards together and it got me thinking about all the things couples could do together.
what else is there?

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charliecat · 04/03/2006 20:32

fight over the pcGrin
we potter in the garden together, him with hammer and nails, me with plants
we also get the rats out and sit watching csi with them

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stitch · 04/03/2006 20:34

rats???????

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 04/03/2006 20:35

That mumsnetter would be ME! I got a mention! WOO HOO!

Just having a quick inspiration break, and then back to it.... craft stuff all over the floor at the moment!!!

QE2 · 04/03/2006 20:39

Theatre
Nightclubs (very often a gay one - it's brill - bumped into another mum from toddler group with her dh there once!)
Restaurants
Cinema

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stitch · 04/03/2006 20:47
Grin
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stitch · 04/03/2006 20:48

we fight, and yell at each other.
but i was thinking more of positive things.we dont do any

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peachygirl · 04/03/2006 20:50

As below theatre / cinema
but also love going to comedy.
Watching DVDs ( we belong to one of those internet rental clubs which is great) we ofetn watch things with commentaries (how sad am I)
National Trust places (useful for meetng MIL)
Crosswords... maybe I should get out my pipe and slippers now

crazydazy · 04/03/2006 20:51

We enjoy shopping together, at the moment things for the house but DP also loves clothes shopping and he looks in more shops than I do!!!

Watching DVD's, going for meals and having sex Blush are the things we do the most regularly Wink

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stitch · 04/03/2006 21:50

it all sounds so lovely Envy

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chicagomum · 04/03/2006 21:55

Spent a lovely afternoon curled up in bed reading and watching dvd's. DS had a seriously long nap of 3 hours and dd was taken by sil to the cinema to see chicken little. BLISS

notasheep · 04/03/2006 22:25

very little

paolosgirl · 04/03/2006 22:28

We don't go out much as a couple, but we like to cuddle up on the sofa, fight over the remote (I usually win), and watch a good film, or sit at the big kitchen table with a cup of tea and have a good long chat. It's not very exciting....Grin We do loads as a family though.

chicagomum · 04/03/2006 22:32

Paolosgirl, sitting down and having a chat it one of the best (and frequently elusive) aspects of a relationship, particulary when kids are involved.

Dior · 04/03/2006 22:52

When we have a rare moment together, we go out for a lovely meal. BC (before children!) we used to do loads; cinema, DVDs, ski-ing, visiting places...blah blah blah. Now, we watch a DVD at the weekend, and have a take-away if we are lucky.

It is the times on our own that remind us that we are still a couple, not just two parents to one child! Sad, but at least we will still have things in common when ds grows up. We are trying to instil our love of walking/reading and visiting interesting places in ds, so we will do them as a family.

eve2005 · 04/03/2006 22:55

hmmmmm.... does fighting count as an activity? no... thought not. Blush

schneebly · 04/03/2006 23:08

winding each other up, watching telly and falling asleep on the sofa and blackjack for pennies! Grin

schneebly · 04/03/2006 23:09

we also like a bit of a competition so we go through all te music channels and 1st to guess artist and song gets 2 points!

Dottydot · 05/03/2006 08:44

I think a lot depends on how much money we've got - we've got babysitters on hand, but not much cash these days, which limits things. Soooo, usually watching telly most nights and sometimes if we're both in a good mood at the same time (ha, ha) we play Boggle!! Eating out/cinema if we've got money and the best thing we've done together recently is do a pub quiz!!

LadyTophamHatt · 05/03/2006 08:52

God this makes me sound like real down trodden wife but I generally do what he wants to do.

Most things I suggest aren't on his list of interesting/exciting things to do and I can't be bothered to row about not wanting to do his thing.

How depressing.

fairyjay · 05/03/2006 09:32

Work together and parent together - must try and find time to be together!

twinsetandpearls · 05/03/2006 11:10

AS I am divorced dp have every other weekend together on our own, we try at least once a month to go away for the weekend together.

On a Sunday we go to church togther and if we don't have dd we then go for a long relax in a coffee bar to read papers and have a big breakfast.

WE are both outdoor people so we go walking, often with the dog as we have a springer. WE also love NT places, I love history and he is a typical man liking to collect facts!

WE are about to start scuba diving lessons together.

At least once a month we will go to the theatre/ see a concert. WE also take part in a local amateur dramatics society which we do with dd as well.

Cinema/meals out.

WE were thinking of attending an art class togther - just waiting forone to start on a night we can get childcare.

If we are in we play cards - I am a red hot poker demon on the quiet.

AS we are decorating our house we do a lot of painting/ stripping etc or shopping together.

I think it is important to do things together, especially as dp and I are so different.

THat has quite cheered me up typing that as we are going through a bit of a rocky patch at the moment and it has helped me see how much we do together and how well suited we are even if it doesn't always feel like it.

blueteddy · 05/03/2006 11:24

Not a lot.

jac34 · 05/03/2006 11:33

We like to curl up and watch a good film together,share a meal and bottle of wine when boys are in bed,we go to the gym together on occasion while the boys are in school,if we get anytime without the boys we love to go out for a meal or browse around second hand book shops or charity shops looking for books or household bargins.Also love carboot sales.

QE2 · 05/03/2006 11:37

So, stitch - come on 'fess up. What do you do or not, as the case may be? You sound a bit down hearing all these stories.

twinsetandpearls · 05/03/2006 12:27

Stitch my dp and I never used to do anything and we were drifting apart- we have to work especially hard at our relationship as we are inmost way complete opposites. I also have learnt form my first relationship where we did nothing together and hence had a lot of problems - so I am very keen on dp and I building shared interests - perhaps overly keen. But I have never been one for half measures.

I am also a bit fantatical about having to do something with our weekend - or I do sulk. This wekend we are strapped for cash and I have an essay to finish so we are stuck in and I am hating it.

But in some ways it is easier as we have the weeekends free.