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to bootycall or not to bootycall?

32 replies

changeznameza · 10/07/2012 21:58

after divorce i did not have sex with anyone for 5 years. count 'em.

2 weekends ago i had a mind blowing one night stand. this was the first sex - the first snog even - in 5 yrs. i am a different person since then, reawakened or something. i want to have sex again. quite badly. it's fun and i like it and it makes me feel beautiful and wanted and i am always careful etc etc etc - you lot all understand, right?

so the gas man came round and there was a bit of chemistry (i THINK) and my question is, should i call him and invite him round? he is single and just moved to my town. should i invite him round for a beer? pretend to have another problem with the boiler? what if he says no? but then, what man ever said no? i just want a shag. dont have any male friends who could help and no single girlfriends to go out on the town with.

my ds is staying with my exh this week so i am at home alone in the evenings

realise this sounds desperate. and it is. what do you think??? advice please.......

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carlywurly · 10/07/2012 22:04

I wouldn't invite him round, no. I dont think its a great idea as you can hardly know him. You could always call or text and say that you'd be happy to go for a drink sometime as he's new to the area.

I couldn't be any more brazen than that though, I'm afraid! what if he says no and then your boiler does break?! Grin

You could always try online dating if that's what you're after - my friends have had their share of friends with benefits that way!

Opentooffers · 10/07/2012 22:07

After 5 years I can see how your mind could be blown. I think this question is more for you to answer though. Depends what you want, pure booty call or something more tangible. Only you know how you really feel about that, there is no right or wrong as long as you are both on the same page from the off so nobody gets hurt.

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changeznameza · 10/07/2012 22:14

hmmm yes carlywurly and Opentooffers you are both right...

i honestly dont want a relationship right now... maybe later. but i need to have some fun right now.

but yeah i'd been delaying calling this guy and i suppose only asked the question because i had doubts. which means it's prob not a good idea!

thank you - will try to organise nights out with the girls instead Smile

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Dozer · 10/07/2012 22:20

Why don't you just call the one night stand one instead? And ask the sexy boilerman for a drink?

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changeznameza · 10/07/2012 22:23

Dozer - dont have the number for the one night stand man Blush

and tbh i am not sure conversation is boiler man's strongest suit....!

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Lovingfreedom · 10/07/2012 22:24

Agree with Dozer, phone the first one and ask if he fancies a repeat performance. I think you missed your chance with the sexy gas man but if you bump into him round town then get talking, tell him what a fantastic job he did on your boiler and then initiate a drink.

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changeznameza · 10/07/2012 22:26

god i'm feeling slutty now. HONESTLY i am not normally like this.

Lovingfreedom - yes i defo will do that if i see sexy boilerman. have been looking out for him these last 2 weeks but havent seen him!

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Lovingfreedom · 10/07/2012 22:31

Nah - don't feel slutty. You've acted perfectly...or possibly not slutty enough. You should have had them both lined up!! (or one a at a time if you prefer!). Good luck. Sounds like your night out with the girls is well overdue...can I come? lol.

mercury7 · 10/07/2012 22:36

I'm not sure about propositioning tradesmen...I mean it's a bit clichéd doncha think?
the good looking ones must get come ons from female customers all the time.

I'd at least try and negotiate a good discount or some free work in exchange for sex

Tryharder · 10/07/2012 22:41

Pretend your boilers broke, call him round, then answer door in lingerie. Go on go on go on!!!

mercury7 · 10/07/2012 22:43

he-he, sounds like a 1970's porn film :o

LST · 10/07/2012 22:44

Don't feel slutty.. I've got a few stories to tell to make you feel better Blush

Call/text him.. See how it pans out Smile

Lovingfreedom · 10/07/2012 22:44

Have you seen how much plumbers charge for a call-out these days?

lisaro · 10/07/2012 22:48

Just be prepared cos men do also say no. That could make you feel pretty lousy.

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changeznameza · 10/07/2012 23:02

lisaro - that's what's making me think i shouldn't - how awful would that be!

sadly the gasman has only a landline and not a mobile so cant even text him! but he was v cheap (for GAS work Grin) last time - ridiculously so.

i love how the later it gets the more everyone's like, do it do it!

but i am pretty much decided i won't...

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Lovingfreedom · 10/07/2012 23:04

Phoning him to ask him out would be excruciating IMO. If it's only landline you'll probably get through to an answerphone anyway and DO NOT leave a voicemail. Do get chatting if you see him around though.

sarahseashell · 10/07/2012 23:53

cheap helpful gas engineers are harder to find than fwb I reckon so I wouldn't
Wink Grin

mrscumberbatch · 10/07/2012 23:55

Lol @ sexy boilerman!

Don't turn into a cheesy porno script!

ImperialBlether · 11/07/2012 00:12

Don't do it! For god's sake, you can't just go shagging any old random guy that comes into the house!

Get on a dating site - plenty of men there who are up for it!

Catrin · 11/07/2012 00:26

Posting not reading as did not want to be swayed... If said man is yummy, fine. If he is a bit minging and you are just horny, DO NOT DO IT. Sex for the sake of it is fine, as long as you know your motives. If the only chemistry is the air of desperation... step away.

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changeznameza · 11/07/2012 00:29

God I don't know what i was thinking even considering it now!?

so i'm looking at guardian soulmates now and just dont have the time, energy, money or anything to try online dating right now. definitely wouldn't want to shag anyone off the internet. at least with boilerman i have seen him.

but i am going to organise a night out and keep my eye out. even a bit of flirting would be nice after a 5 yr drought

thanks for the replies, night

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changeznameza · 11/07/2012 00:30

Catrin - you make a very good point! i think the desparation was the strongest scent in that whole boilerman thing.

thanks MN for saving me from an awful desperate shag!

it would defo have been disappointing!

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mercury7 · 11/07/2012 12:54

tradesmen probably prefer not to shag their customers, I mean it could get messy, he could lose trade, she might be less likely to recommend him to her friends etc ect.

Obviously it's a bit easier with window cleaners, you just pretend not to notice that he's outside the window whilst you're getting undressed...or would that just wind up with him suing because he fell off the ladder?

Tricky Hmm

ElizabethX · 11/07/2012 19:06

I wouldn't shag the gas man if I were you, there are plenty more fish in the sea and you have to think about how you'd get rid of him once you've scratched your itch and then find he's not your type.

(Says ElizabethX who's just shagged her next door neighbour Blush after 4 years without, so I know exactly where you're at)

It is lovely remembering what sex feels / smells / tastes like etc....but it is like scratching an itch - it seems to make it worse not better....

AnyFucker · 11/07/2012 19:15

are you writing a shite porno script ?

fgs, have a bit of dignity

you'll have every randy tradesman sniffing around your back entrance before you know it

or would that be part of the plot ?

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