Feeling a bit mmmmm on this subject

[lolaflores]

I am a SAHM. Got chronic back problems and hip. Husband has a new job which want him to go and work away for 3 nights a week but it is difficult given my lack of mobility.
Suddenly company willing to pay for treatment. all sorts of solutions coming out of cupboard. Prior to this was on NHS and waiting months for treatment.
I feel a bit chippy about it as my pain was my problem till it got in the way of his job. have talked about it, explained how I feel. Think I sound like an ungrateful bitch but at the same time sort of livestock or something.
Or just the powerlessness of things somethimes

symfem if you don't agree with the OP, and find her "first world problems" too irritating to bear, you have the option to piss off

I also have the option to post too. Other voices are allowed, no

of course

but continuing to post when you are clearly upsetting the OP seems a bit shit

no ?

synfem op didn't say that, I said in some odd way I was attached to my illness, and I didn't mean in a good way. I meant that it becomes such a big issue you start to wear it, it becomes you. I think alluding to manchausen is unhelpful. This isn't about the back problem really, it's about how op's illness is being viewed by her dh, as an obstacle to his career.

Oh lola honey, whatever is going on with you and your DP Just get the treatment ay and take it from there?

Thank you all again. Am trying to be more open to the positives and not lingering on the dark stirrings it has provoked. cheers to all

Just take the advice of the majority OP, which seems to be, accept the treatment so that you can benefit from it, not to enable him to do whatever he needs to do. It sounds like you have lots of other issues with your DH (sounds v familiar to me and I have to say that H is now 'stbxh'!)

Once you are free from the fog of constant pain you will be in a stronger position to deal with your other relationship and to work on making your own career and life. xx

Symfem

'other relationship'? sorry, not implying anything untoward! I meant 'other relationship issues' !