Will try and keep this to the point.
Have been with dp for 8 months, we both have kids, he has 1 and I have 3. We work in the same place albeit not for the same company. We got together on a work night out and all was good for the first 5 months or so. We met each others kids and family etc.
I knew from the start that his feelings were stronger than mine, he is a lovely man, very respectful and thoughtful. Great father and generally supportive. Everyone said this ones a keeper. So keep I did.
I was happy being single after an abusive relationship, waited till I thought I was over it before embarking on this unexpected relationship. In fact I was much stronger and so independent. I though dp could only enhance my life.
Fast forward 6 months, his irritating little habits that I brushed away suddenly became more irritating, he became clingy, needy and a bit possessive.
I have a large very loving family and explained from the start how they had really helped me when I needed them and that they would always be a constant in my life on a regular basis. He was fine with this, they welcomed him with open arms. I am very sociable and so was dp or so I thought. After time he wanted it to be just us, sulked every time there was a get together and wanted me to put him first.
I do a lot for him and his dd, willingly, support him and was always trying my best to be there. I work part time, life is hectic so don't always have to the energy or time to devote to him.
His neediness and bad habits have sent me running for the hills and he will not accept my reasons for wanting to end the relationship.
I hate hurting him and his dd whom I have become quite attached to, my kids really like him too, although dd1 who is 13 feels he takes me away from them.
WWYD?
Have namechanged for this in case anyone in rl knows me.
Any advice on how to minimise the pain I am causing would be wonderful and sorry this was so long, did not want to drip feed.