So the OW is no longer and seems to be happily carrying on life with her oblivious DH .. should I let him know what went on??

[KirstyWirsty]

I didn´t get in touch to tell her DH what was going on as I didn´t want to push STBXH and OW together as she seemed to still be with her DH .. but now they are finished should I let her hubby know??

She was not an innocent victim .. she knew about the bomb that she and my ´D´H were throwing into my marriage .. why should she be able to carry on as if nothing happened??

I´d be interested in what all of you wise ladies think ... you have helped so much xx

If I was the partner I would want to know he is/was cheating. It can be said with dignity I think

Actually, do you know what, I think I'd tell him too.

I think the thought of not telling him and him later finding out and wondering why the fuck I didn't tell him this is worse.

I'd feel more guilty about that.

No, you shouldn't get involved in their relationship - unless you are prepared to take some responsbility for potentially breaking up their marriage or family, if they have children.
What your OH and the OW was wrong - but you will not make anything right or better by getting involved in another couple's marriage - specially not if your motivation may be vengence.

OW wanted to meet to apologise day after discovery.I politely declined and told her to never contact my DH and go back and sort out her own relationship.She was desperate to meet me.Why? We have several mutual aquaintances and I now think she was desperate to keep me onside and stop anyone else knowing.

Shortly after our paths crossed and I gave her chance to say sorry and explain.But it was a hollow appology, full of self- justification and most sickeningly bleating about how empty she felt without my DH in her life whilst clutching her chest.It was all about her.She even said how relieved she was her DC's didn't know, mine did and I was furious.

In retrospect I was far too civilised to her and that caused me anguish in ensuing months.The person I wish I had spoken to was her DH to thank him for being brave enough to phone my DH and stop it in its tracks.Apparently he had wanted to talk to me but she wouldn't let him as it might 'rock the boat' and
she was cross he'd made the phone call to DH instead of talking to her and letting her sort it out. Ie. keeping me oblivious and her reputation intact.
Sorry just needed to vent that.Still see her fairly often and have to retain my dignity !
Ps. My DH told me to tell anyone I wanted if it helped me.And he made no phony excuses.Only told a select few in RL.But that's why I stayed with him and have regained my love and respect for him.

We don't move in the same circle and i don't even know what she looks like although i did hear she was very ordinary with glasses so i find myself looking at every 30 something woman with specs wondering if it is she .. STBX has got his .. I'm sure she'll get what is coming to her without any help from me