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Original poster

Is this not......damn rude??

56 replies

KarmaK · 03/07/2012 15:58

A friend invited me to go to an event with him this Thursday

today he sent me a text message saying the following:

"I'm really sorry to do this and hope you don't mind, but I'd really like to go to the poetry event with an old friend who's recently got back from several months abroad instead of with you. I spoke to him yesterday evening and he hasn't been able to get a ticket. Is that OK? Hopefully we can arrange something else soon."

Do you consider this reasonable?

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albertswearengen · 03/07/2012 16:23

I would text back " Don't worry -Give your friend your ticket I will more than happily accompany him to the poetry evening.".

susiedaisy · 03/07/2012 16:23

Yep it's rude and hurtful, do you have the tickets op?

Sophisticatedknickers · 03/07/2012 16:26

Rude beyond belief!

Blatherskite · 03/07/2012 16:27

Incredibly rude.

I would have to text him back and tell him so too!

Xales · 03/07/2012 16:28

Tell him the truth. You are really looking forward to this event and are not happy.

Shutupanddrive · 03/07/2012 16:29

Who has the tickets?

Greenshadow · 03/07/2012 16:29

What Albertswearengen said.
I would definitely make it clear that I actually wanted to attended the event and had been looking forward to it.

Clawdy · 03/07/2012 16:29

Don't text back and make him panic that you may not have received it....

CurrySpice · 03/07/2012 16:32

I got your text about my ticket
I'm deeply hurt and you can stick it
Up your arse. And while i think
You're a rubbish friend and your manners stink

Send that!

Original poster
KarmaK · 03/07/2012 16:32

Yep, I'm just going to completely ignore

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jumpingjackhash · 03/07/2012 16:32

Cheeky bastard. I'd tell him to give his ticket to his friend and not bother to arrange something with you again.

V rude.

Original poster
KarmaK · 03/07/2012 16:33

ROFLMAO @ albertswearengen

Grin
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babyheaves · 03/07/2012 16:33

doing it by text elevates it from being reasonable to being rude IMO.

Then again you've got out of going to a poetry event, which may not be a bad thing.

EightiesChick · 03/07/2012 16:33

Either
a) don't text anything back, makiing him worry that you haven't got it and will show up after all (as Clawdy said above)
b) Text 'Actually, I think you're being very rude. I hadn't seen this side of you before but at least now I know about it'. Then silence.

And yes, it is of course rude. If he could've got an extra ticket for the friend then bringing them as well would be OK, but you can't un-invite someone because you'd rather go with someone else and think that's fine.

Original poster
KarmaK · 03/07/2012 16:34

He's the one who has the tickets. Anyway, sod him. What a prick!

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jumpingjackhash · 03/07/2012 16:34

Grin CurrySpice

akaemmafrost · 03/07/2012 16:34

I would honestly say "I'd sooner eat my own feet than go with you now but I will be using MY ticket to go alone. Hope your mate gets HIMSELF a ticket, cheers".

Lottapianos · 03/07/2012 16:35

Very rude and thoughtless. Is he a good friend? I would also want to make it clear to him that I was offended. How exactly does he think it makes you feel? Or maybe he just doesn't think at all Hmm

A close friend ditched me on my 30th birthday because something better came up - someone she knew got cheap tickets to go see a band she wasn't even that bothered about, and she phoned me up and asked if it would be 'ok with me' Hmm if she went to that instead. Like a mug martyr, I went along with it but just had to challenge her on it after the event. She got totally defensive and acted like I was being Joan Collins and now we don't speak any more. I'm so glad not to have to listen to her BS any longer.

KatieScarlett2833 · 03/07/2012 16:35

Hehehehe Curry

Send that one OP

RussellBrandsEyeliner · 03/07/2012 16:36

What a wanker!

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 03/07/2012 16:37

Sod him indeed.

Pity you haven't already got your ticket, but hey ho. Ignore him. If he texts again, say 'I was too offended by your text to respond. Go with whoever you like, just don't bother contacting me again.'

I MIGHT, just MIGHT, let off a really really good friend for something like that if they phoned and grovelled, and/or if they were never going to see this other friend again, or something.

But in this case I think he's just taking the piss.

Original poster
KarmaK · 03/07/2012 16:40

LadyClarice, I agree - he is totally taking the piss. I really think you get a good insight into people from observing how they treat others.

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thisisyesterday · 03/07/2012 16:48

don't ignore he'll only ask again.

be honest with him. it's not like you have anything to lose is it?

just text him back and say that you do mind

RussellBrandsEyeliner · 03/07/2012 17:15

This whole scenario is made ten times worse for OP as he is almost "expecting" her to be ok with it.. and has left poor OP wondering how to bloody well deal with HIS FUCKING RUDENESS!

Id just text back, "fine but dont fucking ask me to anything ever again you rude bastard"

moneyissue · 03/07/2012 18:11

I would be worried about what he would try & get away with next.

Been there, done that. I'm a much happier person now he isn't around knocking my confidence.