What does the F stand for?

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I've been seeing this guy from work for a while. We've been friends for a few years before that. He tells me he loves me all the time and that we are soulmates etc and I thought we were, we get on brilliantly.

We meet up off site sometimes during the day, for lunch or a drink, and the other week we met up for a picnic. It was that really brief hot spell we had in May, one thing led to another and we made love al fresco, it was all very nice. However the arrangement was for lunch.

Today I was randomly browsing his Outlook calendar and I saw that on that day he had blocked out a loooong lunch (4 hours or so) and put 3 initials which were "FLN". I am LN.

I am thinking the F stands for Fuck and that he just saw it as meeting up to fuck me rather than for a lunch. I really can't think what else it stands for. I can't even ask him because then he'll know ive been stalking his Outlook!

I don't really know what to do about this. I know I shouldn't be bothered but it does bother me. What would you think?

I'd be thinking exactly the same as you.

Sorry, that's not much help.

Feed LN?
Fondle LN?
Fellate LN?

HTH. hope that helps

Feed?

Hmm, that would bother me too. Could you not blag that you'd come across it accidentally?

Could it be just a typo? Just meant to be LN?

Ha! We did meet at a Fort but I think I'm clutching at straws to think it stands for that because you wouldn't write "location name" as a reminder would you.

Maybe it was a typo [desperate]

i think it could be 'fort' i would use that! i cant imagine he would write the other 'f'!!

I think I'm gonna have to ask him aren't I, because I'll just drive myself mad. But either way I'll look like an obsessed idiot.

If it was Fuck then I'd split up with him tbh because that's just really presumptuous and disrespectful (and tbh there's been a few other disrespectful things going on lately).

If it wasn't Fuck then I just look crazy.

Either way I lose!

If you ask him he will make something up. I'm sure it was Fuck. What are the other disrespectful things?

Could he have written the initials after the event, so to speak?

Like you'd draw a little loveheart in your diary when you were a kid. Maybe it was a cryptic little clue to remind him of a special lunch! He might not have been planning it, he might have just marked the event.

Was it the first time you, um, made love?

If so, then yes, presumptuous to the point of being ridiculous, and rather immature (kind of thing teenagers do).

I reckon he put it in afterwards, to remind him when it was.

'There's been a few other disrespectful things lately' ...dump him.

Although, I really would use the location name as a reminder. My calendar is littered with phrases like 'Asda, Mum' or 'Pub, Claire'. It's just a quick and easy way of noting where you're going and who with.

I think it's F for Fort!

Ilovemydog I did wonder that myself but I don't think he's the type. He's hugely disorganised so I am sure he'd have had to put a reminder in there before the event and so nobody else booked a meeting with him.

The other disrespectful things are letting me down a lot, arranging dates which he then cancels (though he has just started a new very messy job so I understand him being unable to commit so well, and he has a lot going on generally). Plus when I want to slow the pace a bit he agrees but then doesn't do it - eg whenever we meet he will sort of paw at me and I will say "can't we just chat" and he'll apologise and agree, but then he'll try to kiss me and so on

I think he may be a sex addict If I'm honest and if he is seeing all our meetings and dates as an opportunity to fuck then maybe I should give him a swerve?

Yes fairy so would I but would you put "AM" and "PC" and still know what they meant? I'm not sure I would but maybe

Lynette no not the first time we've done it loads

I'd dump him for the pawing.

Hang on, so you've "done it loads" but you kind of use the term 'seeing' which implies less connection and loyalty than P or BF. I wonder deep down how you really think he sees you. You say you have put the breaks on at times, which is a bit of an odd thing to need to do given that you already have a sexual relationship. I think you are unsure of him generally because of other things too. Perhaps he appears a bit more casual in his approach about things than you would like. Sometimes you just instinctively know when something is not right.

Maybe it means 'For lunch'. I doubt he needs to remind himself to 'fuck' you.

It's not LN for Lunch. I used LN but they're not my initials iyswim. He'd used my initials.

I just felt paranoid about putting my real initials!

Maybe it was F for Fabulous LN

Actually, if you would dump him over this, I think you should just dump him.

The fact you are snooping his outlook smacks of a relationship that not going to last. You obviously don't trust him.