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Original poster

The toilet is a private place, no?!

51 replies

OhEmGee24 · 01/07/2012 10:11

I would never let my bf watch me wee and as far as he's concerned women do not poo!

So I was bloody shocked to be round my friend's house last night getting ready for a night out and she was having a poo whilst her dp was shaving. Cringe!!

Where do you all draw the line in terms of privacy?!

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tittytittyhanghang · 01/07/2012 10:14

pooing, that is it unless we are on holiday with delhi belly and there is only one toilet with one sink then all bets are off Grin

tittytittyhanghang · 01/07/2012 10:14

in the hotel room obviously

CogitoErgoSometimes · 01/07/2012 10:17

Baths can be shared. Evacuating the bowels is very firmly private. I'm all for being uninhibited with partners but, if you want to retain your feminine allure, some things are best kept to yourself.

skyebluesapphire · 01/07/2012 10:19

We never used the bathroom at the same time. We did shower together to wash our DD when she was young as we didn't have a bath. But toilet wise,no way . Neither of us felt comfortable with that. I think he might have had a wee in the loo once when I was in the shower and he was desperate, lol.

KatieScarlett2833 · 01/07/2012 10:20

No privacy here except for poo and hair removal.

Westcountrylovescheese · 01/07/2012 10:23

Sorry all but I'm on the other side of this fence... there isn't much that isn't shared.

What amazes me are those ladies who's other halves never see them without make-up... How is this possible/desirable in an adult relationship?

forevergreek · 01/07/2012 10:25

Free for all here. Mainly private but if we have half an hour between getting up and out the door ( get up early enough as it is), then teeth/ shower/ shave/ make up usually done whilst other does another.

HecateHarshPants · 01/07/2012 10:29

private.

Of course we both know the other shits Grin but we don't need to be there.

Oh hot damn you sexy thing, sitting there red faced and grunting on the loo, pushing out the hot brown stinky sewer snake. Take me take me now.

erm.

Grin
HandMadeTail · 01/07/2012 10:31

If I really needed to, I would wee in front of DH, but never poo.

But also what tittytitty said. Grin

squeakytoy · 01/07/2012 10:32

Gross... having a wee is fine.. but no way would I want to have a dump in front of anyone else, or for them to do it while I was in the bathroom. Some things are for doing in private.

NoComet · 01/07/2012 10:34

Pooing is private, otherwise I don't care.

Original poster
OhEmGee24 · 01/07/2012 10:37

West country - I don't know anyone who continually wears makeup in front of their dp. That must take a serious amount of effort to maintain!

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pumpkinsweetie · 01/07/2012 10:37

Ewww i could definetely not poo whilst anyone else is in the room, weeing is different and i wouldn't care less about dh being in the room

MrsHelsBels74 · 01/07/2012 10:45

I was horrified when a friend of mine told me that her husband will come into the bathroom & do a poo when she's in the bath...I'm a bathroom prude anyway but to me baths are sacred, a time to unwind & relax. To me it shows a lack of respect.

madonnawhore · 01/07/2012 10:47

Wees fine. Poos, no.

We both have a slightly juvenile toilet humour sometimes so neither of us are prudish about toilet stuff.

We know where to draw the line though.

QuintessentialShadows · 01/07/2012 10:49

So how do you know she was having a poo? Could she not been applying her make up?

Or were you there, in the bathroom with them?

If so, I think you have some boundary issues that needs addressing! Grin

pumpkinsweetie · 01/07/2012 10:50

Good question QuintGrin

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OhEmGee24 · 01/07/2012 10:57

She said "I'm off for a poo"!

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 01/07/2012 11:00

Now I know why I love my home. Two toilets....

QuintessentialShadows · 01/07/2012 11:00

She told you that??? Shock

Casmama · 01/07/2012 11:05

See I think that is too much sharing, I don't need to know what my friends Re doing when they go to the loo. Occasionally dh and I will pee in front of each other but the only person in the loo when I am doing a poo is me and sometimes 2 year old ds

Casmama · 01/07/2012 11:06

Sorry unintentional bold.

Astr0naut · 01/07/2012 11:20

Does giving birth count?

AnotherMumOnHere · 01/07/2012 11:30

Got to admit I prefer my privacy in loo but I taught my children - now adults - to not be ashamed of their bodies and they did the same with their children - now my GRANDCHILDREN follow me into the loo whenever I'm at theirs (3 yr old is innocent and doesnt realise) so I don't think I should make them feel awkward. Thank goodness they don't go out of the loo and announce what gran was doing ! (Nothing exciting just ablutions).

So I'm another in the 'privacy in the loo' brigade.

MrsSutherland · 01/07/2012 11:42

I am a bathroom prude too. I like to have a few minutes peace whether I am in the shower/having a poo/having a wee.

I would wee in front of my friends but my DH is my lover so I don't really want to do stuff like that in front of him as vice versa.

Giving birth is different - I am not sure why but I couldn't have given a shit who was watching at the time (beforehand I didn't really want anyone in there!).